S.O.Z
I think Shawn is just trying to be sentimental and he knows it. We all make mistakes and that’s why we are humans. Sometimes we can be short-sighted and that could make us marry the wrong person. Courting doesn’t mean living with a man all day in his house; those are two different things. A couple can be so into each other sincerely during courtship but when they enter the marriage scenario, it becomes a cat and dog show. So Shawn I don’t agree with you when you say courtship would prevent divorce; it wouldn’t work in all cases.
And as for religion being against divorce, that’s also another thing I don’t support. Religion shouldn’t force you to make a personal decision that would determine your happiness. Religion wouldn’t join you in the sufferings of that relationship; the tears, the heartbreak, the fights, the trauma; so no religion, I don’t agree with you.
If you are in a marriage and it isn’t working and you know that you’ve honestly tried your best to make it work and still no fruits, rather than kill yourself, please quit. Marriage should not be endured but enjoyed; in the words of Shawn.
I have one honest question; if you both have tried your best and it still doesn’t work out, then what next? Should you still continue in that relationship? Should you suffer till death?
I think Shawn should leave this divorce matter for the legs that wear it; it’s easy to judge from afar but harder when you are wearing the shoes.
There are so many things that make life complicated; don’t let marriage be among them.
Well, that was S.O.Z’S take on the matter; what really is your opinion on divorce?
am in that shoes at the moment and i am a supporter of the religious that does not support divorce but i really do not know the way forward as i have completely lost feeling and interest on my partner…
I have heard both sides and let me say few words. I think most people live in a fancy world that marriage is like walking on a beach and whenever there is bumpy road we all wants to jump out off it .if that is your way of thinking ,am afraid to tell u ,u r not in love !. if u think u can only be with that person u thought u couldn’t live without till the time u jump out off love , i would highly recommend to reexamine Ur definition of ‘Love’ . If you are in a marriage or trying to tie the knot with someone along with this thought , U better stop and think for a second .Love is like a fire ,if u leave it ,it will die ,if u work on it ,it has the power of consuming greater portion of ur life . Don’t flatter yourselves by saying ‘i’m fall out of love..better to admit u rather killed it and there is no one responsible for it than You ! You might promise to love and cherish your partner until death apart u but the Vow doesn’t mean anything as any other love letter u read . and the other thing…….When we talk about religion is against divorce , we should know that the most high who set this rule is not naive who doesn’t know what u go through .he always knows what’s best for us .God loves Unity and there is always blessing in being United. if we ask guidance in what to do ,he’s there to show the way .My advice ; let’s not rush into worldly advice rather look up to God for wisdom .as it is easy and convenient to hear a friend who shows u the courtroom ,kneel down before God for some heavenly wisdom b/c he can see ur tomorrow .I ain’t denying the responsibilities of the couple too .Ofcource there are rough times in marriage. anyone ; roommate ,any siblings ,even a single person gets in a fight with his/her taught let alone a couple .Yet if you find yourself finding ‘divorce’ as one of a solution ,still you are in danger unless your partner cheated ,which in this case u have 100% right to walk away.But ,i know every time when we think about the ‘ what if my partner does this and this’ ,our first and only though that cross our mind is to pack our bags and go’…….that’s is !!! it’s like a rule !!! I know it’s hard , but how about MERCY instead !!!…..it’s difficult but possible with God’s grace…………….i know some of u will write a slap on my face letter but a cure is always bitter to take in !!!