CAN A RELATIONSHIP SURVIVE WITHOUT SEX?

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Can a relationship work without sex? I think that’s absolutely possible, depending on the type of relationship in question. You cannot want just sex from a person and expect your relationship with them to be alive when sex isn’t forthcoming. This is because sex is all you need from the person, and you do not see beyond their sexual value. In a relationship like this, there is absolutely no way it can survive without sex in the equation.

That is on one hand; on the other hand, a relationship based on true love can survive without sex. This type of relationship focuses on the other values of a person, other than just the sexual value. In this type of relationship, there is full understanding of each other, and without one, the other cannot feel complete. Have you ever paused to wonder why married couples stick together even at their ripe old age? It’s because for them, it’s not about sex, but the happiness and joy they bring each other…the understanding they have, it’s worth more than anything.

Of course, sex has an important role in a relationship, but it is not the ultimate. If it’s really true love, sex is just an added bonus; it is not the primary target. It’s like acquiring a new phone, the main reason you do that is so you can make phone calls; the gaming and web browsing parts are added bonuses. Today, most churches make it mandatory that intending couples live apart for more than six months before their wedding not just because the bible clearly makes premarital sex a sin, but also to ensure that the couple build their marriage (or union) on a solid foundation; one that can last for eternity notwithstanding the pressures of life. The rule affords the couple a chance to prove that their love goes beyond sex and fleshly needs. I have seen people who abandoned their potential wives because they couldn’t bear to abide with this rule; now, imagine the sort of husbands people like that would make. I believe relationships are not all about sex and physical attraction; there are other things people have to offer—unless you realize that, you will continue to wallow in the deception that without sex a relationship cannot survive.

Instead of focusing on how good they are in bed, or how succulent their lips are, think about how hardworking they are, and how they are there for you to offer emotional support whenever you need it. Instead of sharing a kiss always, share a problem sometimes, for it is such things that will make your relationship stronger and help you see beyond the physical. I’d like to stop here now, but remember, Sex is good, but it aint better than love”…

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