8 SIGNS YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISN’T REALLY A RELATIONSHIP

Not every relationship is a relationship; sometimes we enter a partnership that we call a relationship but in reality it isn’t even close to that.

There are various relationship settings out there that are so far from the main thing instead they are almost a direct opposite of what a relationship stands for.

I’d share eight of those relationships that aren’t really relationships.

1. THE SEX ONLY RELATIONSHIP

If you have been in a relationship where it’s just about sex then you would understand that it’s so far from a relationship. A relationship shouldn’t be based on fulfilling our sexual pleasures only, it goes way beyond that; anyone involved in the sex only relationship should term their relationship a ‘fling’ and stop the abuse of the word relationship.

2. NO FEELINGS

In actual sense, a relationship happens when two people who have strong feelings for each other come together to have that special union which is born out of a strong desire to be with each other and take care of each other. Interestingly, some relationship isn’t based on what they feel rather it is based on what they don’t feel.

3. YOU KEEP GETTING HURT

A relationship is supposed to feel like home; home in the sense that you love your partner and your partner loves you. If this isn’t the case then you should re-evaluate what you are having; if you keep getting hurt over and over again then what you are having probably isn’t a relationship.

4. FIGHTS AND ARGUMENTS

Yes, every relationship has its sour moments but when your relationship is continually in the mud, when there is little peace in the relationship and constant battles then you should know that what you having is a warfare and not a relationship.

5. CHEATING    

Unfaithfulness these days is the new faithfulness; a relationship where partners can’t keep their pants in the relationship shouldn’t be called a relationship. In some relationship these days, both partners cheat on each other and pretend that it’s okay. If you cheat on your lady and she cheats on you or any of you cheat on each other then it isn’t a relationship, it should probably be given another name.

6. NO TRUST

The previous point is one that would make trust die in a relationship and any relationship where trust doesn’t exist isn’t really a relationship. A relationship should be built on trust; trust is needed for the growth of every relationship and if it doesn’t exist then both partners are probably taking a stroll in the park.

7. LITTLE OR NO COMMUNICATION

Communication is the bone of a relationship; it is what makes it solid, it is what keeps it going. If your relationship lacks communication then I wonder what your relationship is all about; no relationship can survive without communication and no relationship is worth calling a relationship if communication doesn’t exist.

8. A RELATIONSHIP WITH NO VOICE

By a relationship with no voice, I mean a relationship where both couples have no say in the relationship, in the sense that they are being controlled and told what to do by friends or family. I’ve seen so many relationships crash just because the partners have no say in it; rather they are being controlled by others. Relationship isn’t a puppet show, it should be between you and your partner; if you are being used as a Muppet then what you are having isn’t really a relationship.

There is nothing as beautiful as a beautiful relationship; if your relationship isn’t real then it’s probably not a relationship; don’t be in a relationship just to while away time.

S.O.Z