This isn’t an uncommon thing in relationships, but this is one that quite beats my imagination; why would a person agree to date someone and still choose to be ashamed of that person? It beats the essence of dating and relationships.
Many people are in this kind of relationship without even knowing that their so called partner despises them.
I’d reveal some signs that show that your loving partner isn’t all that loving.
1. RARELY INTRODUCES YOU TO FRIENDS
This is a major sign that your partner is ashamed of you. Ladies brag about a man they like to their friends, men hype their ladies as well when with friends (that is if they are proud of you), but when they aren’t all that comfortable with their partners, they would actually find it difficult to introduce you to friends; they know that you won’t meet up to the taste of their friends, so they hush you away in order to save their faces, or they would rather introduce you as mere friends. If you find yourself in this situation then you don’t need a magician to tell you that your partner isn’t proud of you.
2. PUBLIC SHOW OF LOVE IS NEVER POSSIBLE
When one isn’t ashamed of his/her partner, such person wouldn’t care who’s watching, they would display their love for their partner without minding; but the reverse is the case when someone is ashamed of his/her partner. There would be no fondling, no kissing, no hugging, no playing; even the simple act of holding hands would be avoided.
3. MEETING FAMILY WOULD NEVER BE A ‘DREAM COME TRUE’
If meeting the friends of your partner would be a difficult task then meeting family would even be a more difficult task. When one is ashamed of his/her partner, he would give all manner of excuses that would make meeting family impossible.
4. NO FUTURE
No one plans a future with a person that he/she is too ashamed to introduce to his friends and family; that’s impossible. This kind of relationship would have all the marks of ‘for the now and not tomorrow’; when a partner is ashamed of you, he/she wouldn’t see a future in that relationship, the relationship would just be focused on the present and nothing more.
5. BAD TREATMENT
This is also another major sign that your partner is ashamed of you. When your partner doesn’t value you enough to be proud of you, that person would give some poor treatment every now and then, you would sometimes get despised for something little, there would be little tolerance for your mistakes, you would be blamed for so many things and that would be the story of the whole relationship.
6. YOUR PARTNER WOULD STILL BE ON THE LOOKOUT
Your partner that’s ashamed of you would still be hoping to find someone better, you are probably just a means to an end, and once your partner finds someone better, that would be the end of that relationship. A partner that’s ashamed of you would always keep you below the radar, but would definitely need someone that would take the spotlight in his or her life; so at best you would just be that person that would be under the radar.
7. NO DATES, NO WALKS
If you’re waiting for a fancy date from someone that’s ashamed of you, you would wait forever. Taking walks with you would be quite too big a task for a partner that’s ashamed of you. Seeing you off after a visit would be a difficult task, holding your hands would be a worse task, walking with you during the day time would be more difficult. A partner that’s ashamed of you would try to avoid public eye as much as possible.
If your partner gives you these signs then you should know that you’re just someone that’s being despised in a relationship. Don’t deceive yourself anymore, take a stand to be in a relationship where you would be valued or risk getting shabby treatments always.