Sometimes you could get tempted to call that ex because you probably miss them, you feel lonely without them, you are obsessed about them, and you feel you cannot do without them.
I’ve written on the reasons you shouldn’t call your ex. But what can you do instead of calling your ex?
1. REMIND YOURSELF OF THE THINGS YOUR EX DID WRONG
Your mind could trick you into thinking how good your ex is when you are away from them, and the pains and hurts they caused you could become quickly forgotten.
Instead of calling that ex, remind yourself of all the things your ex did wrong to you and how many times they caused you pain. This quick reminder would be enough to push them away.
2. LOVE YOURSELF
Learn to love yourself, value yourself and treat yourself as gold. When you do this, you will only want people who value in your life. When you value yourself, you’ll also attract people who value you.
3. BE WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU
You have family, friends and people who truly care about you. These are people you should spend time with; they will love you and be there for you, and they’d also advise you against calling that ex who doesn’t deserve you.
4. DO SOMETHING FUN AND EXCITING
Rather than sit at home and think about an ex, do something fun and exciting with your life.
5. START A PROJECT
A project would have a long-term effect on you than doing something fun and exciting. Starting a project, or investing your time and money in one would captivate your mind and set you on the path to do something worthwhile with your time.
The project could be anything; it could be learning a new language, starting a new business, learning to bake or cook something new, pursuing your goals. Things like these would capture your heart, and you’d have little time to think of an ex.
6. FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE
Plan your life, focus on what’s good for you, set goals, have dreams and think about doing what’s right and best for you. When you have focus, you wouldn’t let something little like calling back an ex distract you.
More often than not, going back to an ex is just a waste of time; the same issues that held the relationship bound will resurface and the same problems or even new ones might resurface.
ViV