Falling in love is a beautiful thing; but it’s only beautiful when you fall for someone who loves you in return and treats you right.
When you fall for the wrong person, you only leave room for bitterness and hurts. I’ve written on the signs that you have fallen in love with the wrong person, now it’s time to know how to save yourself when you are caught up in this situation.
1. ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKE
You have made a huge mistake in falling for the wrong person — you know this, but you have to accept it. Where a lot of people go wrong is that they don’t even acknowledge their mistakes; they keep fighting a lost battle to get that person’s love and attention to no avail.
If you have made this mistake, accept your mistake first; you can’t move on if you don’t even accept that he/she is wrong for you.
2. STOP FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF
Self-pity and feeling terrible for yourself wouldn’t take you anywhere. It might be a bad situation to be in, but the moment you take solace in self-pity, you only make things difficult for yourself.
Rather than feeling self-pity, learn to love yourself.
3. REMIND YOURSELF OF HOW SPECIAL YOU ARE
Falling for the wrong partner can sometimes make you lose sight of who you are, but you should never let this happen to you. Take up a mirror, look at yourself and remind yourself of who you are; remind yourself of your values, what makes you a beautiful person and how a million other people would want you in their lives.
4. SHARE YOUR FEELINGS WITH PEOPLE WHO CARE
Sometimes, it might be a huge task to swallow everything deep within. Talking to someone might be beneficial rather than taking solace in self-pity. Sharing your feelings and what you are going through would help your mental health and save you from being depressed.
5. TAKE ACTION
The first four tips would help you build back your strength and confidence, and it’s important you do so — but it doesn’t just end there. The most important action you have to take is leaving that person; because you only put yourself in harm’s way when you remain in that relationship with a partner who’s wrong for you.
Take action and quit the relationship now. It might be difficult, but it’s the only choice you have to take.
6. CUT ALL TIES
This is just as important as the previous tip. If you don’t cut off all ties then you endanger yourself. If you quit the relationship without cutting all ties, you would keep going back and forth. So cut all communication with that person, learn to stop thinking about that person, move on with your life and cut all emotional ties with that person — and take away things that remind you of that person.
Falling for the wrong partner is like taking the wrong bus — you would never reach your destination.
These six tips must be taken if you have fallen for the wrong person.
Shawn