Most relationships these days don’t last as long as they’re meant to. People get into a relationship today, and in a few weeks/months, they’re going their separate ways. Even marriages don’t last long today, and it’s disappointing and wrong because it shouldn’t be.
The reason why anyone would go into a relationship first of all is to get married and stay with them forever, so if it doesn’t play out that way, it’s because something is missing.
I have put this post together so we address this disturbing trend, and get things back to how they’re meant to be. Having a lasting relationship is totally dependent on doing the right things, and you’re about to discover what exactly.
BUILD FRIENDSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER
Some of us just date because we have to or we need to belong to a certain class of society, so we don’t even care about knowing who we’re with as long as we achieve that status, but it’s wrong. Dating is meant to happen between two people who really want to be together, and who understand each other properly. If that understanding isn’t there, then, it’s totally useless. Understanding means knowing who you date inside out. It means that you know what makes them happy and what turns them off. Friendship between partners means feeling so much comfort around each other. If it’s lacking, then, it’s all a waste of time being together.
BUILD TRUST AND SECURITY
Part of the reasons why relationships don’t endure today is due to lack of trust and security. If I don’t feel safe giving you my heart, it wouldn’t take long before I take off because I don’t want to get hurt. You can’t be in a relationship yet your partner doesn’t know how you truly feel about them. It wouldn’t last. Your every breath and action should suggest and show them they’re the only one, and you’re with them for the longer haul.
COMMUNICATION IS VITAL
The little things we tend to forget are the ones that make a relationship strong. Texting, calling, dropping them flowers, cards, love notes – they go a long way, guys. For instance, if you’re going to be late from work, video- chatting or texting them at intervals is a whole lot better than doing nothing.
APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER
Tell them you love them. Text back. Call often. Buy them gifts. Praise them openly, and not just behind them. These things show them you really care, and value them. If you appreciate your partner, you appreciate your relationship. It’s simple.
TOLERANCE
Understanding that nobody is perfect, and people, including your partner will always make mistakes and get on your nerves would make it a lot easier to continue to stay with them. Part of the things that help a relationship last is the ability and willingness to forgive. It’s called ‘tolerance’, and your relationship needs it to survive.
Drama
I thank you first for your advices, what you came to say here is totally true and helpful but this happen mostly to the whites not for us Africans I’m telling you, it’s really a shame.
It’s so rare to get an African who can love in this way,surely we got so tired with them,love doesn’t exist nowadays.
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