There’s a difference between being needy and having needs. Every human has needs that are inherent, and require attention, but we can’t confuse that with being needy. Being needy means having ridiculous needs or going about them unrealistically.
A lot of people are unaware of the differences, and the problems they may pose. So we’re going to share some signs that suggest one is a little too needy in a relationship.
YOU HAVE UNCLEARLY DEFINED NEEDS
Like I have mentioned, there are needs one can easily meet, and there are those things we consider needs that actually aren’t. Understanding this makes it easier for one to be less needy. Some of us have unrealistic needs that we know our partner cannot really meet, yet, we refuse to let them go.
For instance, for a person who is dating someone who is mostly busy with work or business has no reason to expect to spend every minute of the day with them as long as they try their best to be there when they can. A person dating a financially struggling partner has no business requesting for gifts they know they can’t really afford. These are some of those needs considered unrealistic. Understand your partner, and what they’re like, and it’s easier to build your needs to suit their personality.
YOU DON’T ALLOW HIM TIME TO PROCESS HIS ERRORS
Not every man is smart enough to immediately realise their mistake on the spot, sometimes, it takes some men longer than normal to come to terms with the harsh truth that they may actually have erred, and then, apologise to you. So you need to sometimes, wait a while before you attack him and berate him for not showing remorse. Relationships are about tolerance and understanding; if you are not willing to be tolerant, it’s impossible for it to work.
YOU DO NOT SHOW EMPATHY FOR HIS FEELINGS
Unless you learn to be clear about your wishes and needs, you will not learn to respect his needs. Do not feel shy and tell him that, for instance, you care about him and would like to know what you can do to make him feel happy. Men are humans too; they want to feel loved.
It’s also necessary to avoid being pushy. If your partner for example, wants to have time for himself rather than be with you on a date out, it’s not out of place to respect that desire.