When it comes to love, dating and relationship, people have certain beliefs that may not be totally true and if such ideas and beliefs still remain a big part of one’s thinking, the relationship of such a person might suffer all the time.
To have a positive relationship, negative beliefs that holds little weight shouldn’t be a part of our mentality; you need to have the right mentality to push your relationship forward.
Below are some of those beliefs
1. TRUE LOVE NEVER DIES
Most people would tell you that all they need is true love and that would be it; inasmuch as we all need true love in our lives but true love can actually wane if not given the proper attention. A relationship wouldn’t survive on true love alone; other factors would help the love blossom.
2. APPEARANCE DOESN’T MATTER
Appearance matters a lot; to say appearance doesn’t matter is just a sugar-coated lie aimed at deceiving one’s self. We have to look good to make our partner want us the more. Looking good makes one attractive and who wouldn’t want a partner to be attractive?
3. THE GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE
The mistake people make is comparing their relationship to others and trying to base their relationship on that of other friends, family members or colleagues. Your grass may not look green but it probably is, maybe it’s just covered with early morning dews and all it needs is a little sun to shake it up.
4. SEX HARDLY MATTERS
Couples leave their sexual life not catered for with the belief that it hardly ever matters. Sex matters a lot and if you have any sexual issue with your partner it’s best not to leave it to linger on; sort it out on time else it might escalate gradually.
5. SEXUAL PLEASURE WOULD SATISFY MY HAPPINESS
In a short term relationship this might be the case but a long term relationship isn’t just about sex. Even though the previous tip underlines the importance of sex, it shouldn’t be the determining factor in a relationship.
6. I CAN’T IMPROVE THE RELATIONSHIP BY MYSELF
Many have the belief that it takes two to improve the relationship; it really does take two people to improve a relationship but it starts with one person. If you keep waiting for your partner and your partner keeps waiting for you to start the improvements then there would be no breakthrough. There should always be this ‘call to action’ belief to turn around your relationship; never wait.
7. I CAN’T FALL IN LOVE AGAIN AFTER THIS HURT
Well, you may need a while for your heart to heal but it’s never advisable to rule out falling in love again, and no, you don’t have ill luck, you have probably been meeting the wrong persons, and you should always use each experience to shape your life for the better.
8. OPPOSITES ALWAYS WORK BETTER THAN SAME-CHARACTER
I tend to disagree; the principal thing is understanding, and as far as long term relationships are concerned people even want to be with a partner that has same beliefs and core value as it just kinda makes them feel compatible.
9. MARRIAGE KILLS SEX
This is totally false; couples shouldn’t enter marriage with the belief that sex would fade away soon; the passion in any relationship should be maintained continually else the relationship would be ruined.
10. MEN/WOMEN CHEAT
People have this adulterated belief that the opposite sex always cheats; the simple truth is that men and women cheat, it’s just about finding the individual that would stay true to you.
These ten beliefs mentioned shouldn’t be adhered to else you wouldn’t get the best out of relationship.
Hope you enjoyed this piece? Do have a lovely day.
Shawn.