8. WHEN SHE TAKES TOO LONG TO PREPARE
Women are usually the culprits here; it’s unusual and uncommon when you see a woman who doesn’t take too long in the bathroom, with her makeup and dressing afterwards; it’s also unusual to see a man with extraordinary patience when his lady just takes too much time.
However, this is one that usually causes huge arguments; the man feels the woman should be ready few minutes after he’s ready and he’s right; the woman as well feels she has a lot to do under a few minutes just to meet up and look good as well and she’s right — the hair, the lips, eyes, lashes and a host of other things need a lift, whereas a man virtually has little to do. They are both right here, so all they need do is look for a simple way together where they can keep time, because the usual shouting and quarreling won’t solve anything but create more problems.
9. I SHOULDN’T ASK, MY PARTNER SHOULD KNOW
Everyone longs for attention, love and care from their partner, and this can sometimes be built through understanding. It’s normal to think that your partner should know what you want without you telling, but it actually isn’t healthy. Your partner as well has quite a lot on his or her plate and probably wouldn’t know or notice everything about you — now this is where you come in. If that partner wouldn’t know without your telling, then tell your partner what you want — from then on, your partner would know what to do and how to do it. There is nothing wrong in giving your partner a little but subtle lecture about what you want; don’t expect him/her to know everything — communication is vital in every relationship.
10. WHO STARTED IT FIRST?
Who started it first? Who didn’t? Who retaliated? Who said this and who didn’t? Couples should stop fighting about who started it and work together to try to find an ending to it, because at the end of the day who started it doesn’t matter; what matters is how well your relationship or marriage is doing.
Relationships and marriages need a lot to be successful; if you aren’t ready to put in a lot then you aren’t as well ready for a successful relationship.
Shawn
Very good and timely advice Shawn. Thanks.
Thanks Evans for appreciating what we do.
what of quarrelling about age difference…d lady is always reminding the guy of their age difference; making d guy to be always pissed off! so what’s your advice on that????
It is true that age difference is not a mathematical issue but a generational issue which implies that two people living together should respect. Through sound and genuine communication about generational gaps and preferences would narrow tendency to quarrel over this age difference.