4. HABITS
Couples argue, quarrel and even fight about habits of their partner that they don’t like. One big question to answer is: how far has the fight gone in solving that bad habit? If you have quarreled and complained a lot of times and it didn’t work then it means you aren’t taking the right approach. Habits are formed over a period of time, so it means it could probably take a period of time to eradicate. Learn to coach and support your partner to end a habit you don’t like.
5. WHO’S RIGHT AND WHO’S WRONG
In a marriage or relationship, this is one scene that always pans out; one partner is always right and the other is always wrong, or both always claim to be right, meaning no one’s actually wrong. This scene isn’t one that always pan out well; the always-right attitude is one that creates rivalry and unnecessary bust ups. When both partners claim to be right then it means they are both wrong and should sort things out for themselves.
6. UNFORGIVING/BRINGING BACK OLD DEEDS
Couples should try to learn that when a deed is done and is in the past then for the sake of that marriage or relationship it shouldn’t probably be brought up again. When a partner becomes a victim of the other partner always bringing out a timeline of their past mistakes then it could leave such a person angry and unhappy. When it’s past, let it be. If you are a partner that continually brings up old and even very old deeds then it means that you lack a forgiving heart.
7. DIFFERENT METHODS OF DOING THINGS
We all have different methods and ways of doing things, and those ways have been built over a period of time and we’ve become very familiar with them. Surprisingly, couples quarrel and fight because they both have different methods of doing things; this isn’t worth the argument at all. Couples should learn how to accept each other and their ways of doing things also, as far as it isn’t harmful. Remember, you aren’t in that relationship with yourself.
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Very good and timely advice Shawn. Thanks.
Thanks Evans for appreciating what we do.
what of quarrelling about age difference…d lady is always reminding the guy of their age difference; making d guy to be always pissed off! so what’s your advice on that????
It is true that age difference is not a mathematical issue but a generational issue which implies that two people living together should respect. Through sound and genuine communication about generational gaps and preferences would narrow tendency to quarrel over this age difference.