A peaceful marriage is the dream of every person who hopes to get married, but you can’t have a peaceful marriage by luck; you have to work for it.
For a marriage to be peaceful, certain things ought to exist.
1. UNDERSTANDING
Try to build understanding in your marriage, and one way you can build understanding is by seeing things through each other’s eyes. Togetherness can also make couples know and understand each other better, and you should learn to study your partner; as a good partner, you should know what makes your man/woman angry and try to avoid them.
2. BUILD GOOD COMMUNICATION
If good and effective communication exists in every marriage, most marriages would be peaceful. Learn to communicate your feelings with each other in a peaceful and loving way, learn to listen to each other and when you are apart, try to keep in touch with each other. Communication would help your marriage thoroughly.
3. LEARN TO MAKE UP AFTER A FIGHT
Surely, a misunderstanding might come up, and this doesn’t mean your marriage would crash or your marriage isn’t peaceful — it only means you are humans, two imperfect beings trying to build perfection with each other. Learn to make up after having a fight with your partner; don’t let enmity enter your marriage after that fight.
4. RESPECT
Have respect for each other, respect each other’s feelings and respect each other’s thinking. When couples have respect for each other, they won’t abuse and insult each other and they wouldn’t do things to hurt each other. Respect is important.
5. KEEP THE LOVE BURNING
Your hearts remain glued to each other even after years of marriage; you should still look for means to make each other happy — and when happiness exists in your marriage, peace would also exist. Take each other out on dates, do something spontaneous for each other, make time for sex (good sex at that), get each other gifts and never let the romantic side of your marriage die off. Peaceful couples are couples who love each other.
6. APOLOGISE AND FORGIVE
Apologies and forgiveness shouldn’t be far from your marriage if you want it to be peaceful. Learn to say sorry when you are wrong and try to forgive your partner too. If apologies and forgiveness exist in your marriage, the peace in your marriage would be so high; never underestimate the roles these two can play.
7. BUILD TRUST AND BE TRUSTWORTHY
You can’t have a peaceful marriage when you aren’t trustworthy. When lies, white lies, dishonesty, unfaithfulness and so many other negative vices are found in your marriage, it can hardly be peaceful. Be trustworthy and build trust in your marriage; when couples trust each other, it makes it easier for them to live a happy life.
8. COMPROMISE
Being unable to compromise is one thing that could kill the peace of your marriage. The inability to compromise can have a harmful effect on your marriage. Try to find a common ground when you are having an argument about a plan or what to do. When both parties want only their wish to be done, there can never be peace. Compromising would help your marriage greatly.
If you want a peaceful marriage, then these tips should be practiced in your marriage, and you would see the effects.
Have a marriage filled with peace and love. Cheers!
Shawn