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Honestly, I hate to be the bad guy but I always try to be sincere, you’d understand what I mean if you have been following my articles from make that love last, ten frequent lies men tell to 6 reasons women cheat. My take on sex before marriage; in a nutshell, it’s a necessary evil and I’m going to be practical here.
First, I’m going to ask some very practical questions; how can you survive the passion in a relationship with someone you really love? How can a relationship stay for years without sex? How do they control their passion for each other? I’m not saying it’s impossible, I’m just asking how. How many people can confidently come out and say they are in a relationship with no sex? I need figures here please. Sex is the result of passion resulting from either deep love or lust, how can one control any of these passions? It’s easy to fault it but I call it plain hypocrisy.
Secondly, let’s talk about the human nature. Whether we accept it or not, sex is a huge part of our lives, it’s an in-built instinct, something the body always crave for. Let’s say, you get married at the age of 27, how can one spend 27 years of his/her life without sex. As a human, the urge would definitely come and please don’t go all religious here, just give me practical solutions that every tribe and religion can relate with.
Another thing that comes with sex is curiosity; this mostly concerns the younger ones. The human race is one that loves to reach the roots of its curiosity; they prefer doing the don’ts and avoiding the dos. It’s a natural human instinct; everyone is guilty of this instinct; so saying ‘’don’t have sex’’ is really a huge task, the human instinct in you would interpret that as ‘’please do have sex’’. Like they say, it’s really hard to cheat nature.
I know I’d get some sticks for my opinion but I’ve also read that humans hate the truth, but please before you label me a ‘sinner’ answer some of the questions I asked. And please, don’t misquote me, I’m against illicit sex and if you just must, do use a condom. HIV/AIDS is real, don’t spread the virus.
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lmao! absolute rants. every human guilty of this should not hide, but the truth still remains that ‘sex before marriage’ is a SIN. We all know that there’s an innate ability for smeone to fall for the temptation, but the ability to ‘obey your father’s instruction so you don’t get into problems’ make you an envious person when it comes to this controversial matter. It is better for you to be over-sexed while in marriage than to be caught in a web of problems when you finally ‘leave your father’s house to cleave to another’. i hope i have made myself clear.
this is like eating poison ivy for lunch, breakfast and dinner… you might not wake to even have the least constipation. whether neccessary evil or not. sex before marriage is not good! for you to overcome this, you have to work it out in your mind first, then apply self control. i am sure we all have mouths; use it to talk to yourself. i am enjoying every bit of abstinence, although there are temptations, but trust me, with God on my side, i conquer that thought everyday immediately it flashes as a reminder that i have been missing the pleasures. Na which kind pleasure we never see before? Abeg! move on with your life and direct your energy towards making yourself better instead of having several doses of xes.
Sex before marriage, I wouldn’t go the spiritual way yet I’m spiritual. Sex is nice, actually very nice but the consequences of having it outside the confines of the institution of marriage can be very costly and it has been for many people. So I don’t think it’s necessary evil but it’s just an evil like any other evil that is tempting which we have to avoid. As Christians who has been involved before, I’ve decided to stop not because of lack of opportunities but because it brings about a feeling of loss and uncleanliness and guilt that far outweighs the pleasures of having it outside marriage. I will never take a high moral ground on this topic but i would advocate for self control and when we fall we immediately wake up so that we could be able to honour “SEX” as secrete and to be enjoyed will a lifetime partner.
is not easy if i may say, sex is something we human cannot do without as long as the sexual hormone is secreted in our system, but it all boils down to self determination and self control
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hhmmm. its not just about having sex before marriage and knowing that it is wrong. It is the heavy guilt that follows the pleasure
I can see people talking about self control we y’all that.. But courtin’ someone and surviving till marriage minus the cookie one hard thing to do just bring realistic……..
May God help us bco is not easy at all
worst sin to get involved in. it destroys u as a person. I wish I had stayed on the path I was on being a virgin but like a dummy I was fooled and now I pay