It is one thing to fall in love with someone, and a completely different thing to continually enjoy that relationship after a while. The truth about relationships is that while love makes it enjoyable in the first instance, it is usually never enough to hold it together. There is a lot more to keeping a relationship as happy and healthy as it was initially than just loving someone, and unless you understand this and learn to play by the rules, you may find yourself questioning your decision to be with your partner in the first place.
Preserving a happy relationship means dedicating time towards maintaining the spark it has. Sometimes, people lose consciousness of this truth, and that is when boredom steps in. One of the worst things that could ever happen to a relationship is for boredom to creep into it, and that is when it becomes less fun and interest would begin to fade. If you’re in a situation like this, where your once happy relationship seems to be losing its spice, not to worry, these tips will help you rediscover the fun. And if your relationship is still fun and healthy, you need all the help you can get to keep it that way, so you will find this piece useful as well.
1. BRING UP A SWEET OLD MEMORY
I cannot begin to tell you how refreshing this can be for both your partner and the relationship. People tend to react positively to nice thoughts and memories of events that occurred in the past. Think of a fun moment that you shared with your partner a while ago, before things started going wrong, and talk about it with your partner. It’ll take them aback to how great things were, and make them realize what the relationship has been missing.
2. APPRECIATE YOUR PARTNER MORE
A lot of couples tend to take each other for granted and care less for themselves after being together for a while, but that is not a positive because people can grow tired of a relationship if they feel that they’re not as loved and valued as they once were. If you have not been showing your partner enough appreciation for the things they do for you (no matter how small), you may want to drop that habit. Learn to notice the things they do for you and thank them for it. It’ll in turn show them that you also do take notice of their efforts, and that you value them. That feeling can rekindle the dwindling spark in a relationship.
3. DO SOMETHING FUN YOU USED TO DO TOGETHER
What were those fun things you did together as a couple before work and other things messed everything up? Think about those things, and bring them back into play. Maybe you used to play video game together or perhaps you watched football (sports) together? Get yourself to do those things again, and see your relationship spring back to life. The idea is to re-inject life into your relationship, and the best way you can go about it is by doing things that gave the relationship life in the first place — things that you felt good doing as a couple.
4. TRY NEW THINGS WITH YOUR PARTNER
Sometimes, a relationship is boring, not because you don’t do fun stuff, but because you keep doing the same thing. Some things can become boring when you do them over and over, so it’s good to sometimes, leave what you’re used to, and do something else (new) to give your relationship that feeling of freshness. If you usually eat dinner at home, it wouldn’t hurt anyone to eat out for a change. That would give the relationship a feeling of newness, and if it keeps getting that sort of treatment often, there’s no way it’s going to feel ‘old’.
5. SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER
When was the last time you bought your partner a gift except on their birthday? Heck, some people do not even remember their partners’ birthdays. Lol. If you’re guilty of this, then you need to see things differently. Gifts and presents aren’t meant to be given to loved ones only on their birthdays, you can buy someone a gift anytime you like, and the thing about gifts is that they often make a big statement of affection, and when they come as a surprise, it’s even better.
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