Shawn
There is a somewhat unwritten sexual obligation for couples, making it a bit mandatory for both partners to satisfy each other, so as not to give an option to straying eyes, minds and body — that is, cheating.
However, we all are humans with different testosterone levels, meaning different sexual drives, we could have different moods, different stress levels and a lot of other differences with each other — this could lead to the occasional or even regular ‘not tonight honey’.
From my two explanations, it means it’s quite mandatory for couples to satisfy each other, and as well justifiable to say no. In the first instance, it’s part of what they signed up for — the unwritten sexual obligation. Also there is that difference in body language that makes it justifiable to say no.
But it also shouldn’t be about one partner wanting some intimate moments and the other partner saying no, there should be a sense of maturity and understanding. For example, it’s a bit unfair asking your partner for s*x just after a stressful day; it’s also unfair denying your man or your partner sex for no reason.
The man that wants sex from his partner should study the mood, create an enabling environment for it to happen and not treat his lady like a robot. Also, the woman shouldn’t rather use s*x as a punishment tool, and there is also a very friendly way to say no when you aren’t in the mood. This way, such issues would be easily trashed.
Love should be promoted in a union, understanding as well and also that sacrifice to make things work with your partner. With these three, there wouldn’t be any trouble regarding such events.
That’s our take on today’s Elcrema Sunday Love Special. Do you think it’s right for a woman to refuse her man sex?