Love is about compromise but that still isn’t a good reason for ladies to do certain things in the name of love. Just because you are in a relationship with him doesn’t mean you stop existing. I know some men won’t love some of the things I am about to write but I am a man who believes in love and respect in a relationship. Just because your girlfriend loves you is no reason to disrespect her and treat her like nothing.
So ladies, below are 9 things your boyfriend shouldn’t make you do
1. MAKE YOU HAVE S*X WITH HIM WHEN YOU WANT TO WAIT
Time and time again, I see ladies who made a decision to be celibate, end their celibacy just because of a guy that told them that if she loves him, she would sleep with him. Ladies, if he truly loves you, he would certainly wait for you and if your decision is to wait till you are married before having s*x, a man who truly loves you will respect that decision. So ladies, don’t let your boyfriend trick you into having s*x with him when you have made a decision to wait. If he is so eager to have s*x, maybe he should get married to you. Sorry guys, I have to speak the truth.
2. END FRIENDSHIPS
When I say be the man in your relationship, I don’t mean making your girlfriend’s life miserable. Ending friendships your girlfriend cherishes is wrong. I expect ladies to say NO to this. It’s so wrong. No man loves his girlfriend telling him to quit his friends for her but you expect her to quit her friends for you. No brother, that’s no relationship. I understand sometimes your man might not like certain friends you keep, what I expect him to do in such situations is express how he feels about the friends he doesn’t like but it’s still your decision to make and not his. The best relationships are those that coexist seamlessly with friendships. I always check out the kind of friends a lady keeps before I ask her out because I understand that her friends are baggage that come with dating her.
3. GET AN ABORTION
Ladies, if your man thinks he is old enough and man enough to start having sex, then he should also be old enough and man enough to face his responsibilities if an unexpected pregnancy occurs. Being a man isn’t just about giving a woman the best sex she can ever have, it’s really more than that. Being a man means you are willing and ready to face consequences for every action you take. So ladies, it’s not your man’s decision to make whether you get an abortion or not.
4. GIVE UP ON HER DREAMS
Every woman dreams of finding love but just because she found love doesn’t mean all of her dreams as a woman have come true. Ladies don’t give up that dream because of a boyfriend that might even break your heart tomorrow. A man who truly loves you will help you achieve your dreams and not make you give up on your dreams. Partners in a healthy relationship should encourage and support each other’s dream. So ladies, you should be able to have a man you love and also chase your dreams. None should die for the other.
5. FOOT THE BILLS ALWAYS
I encourage ladies to take their man out sometimes and foot the bills. It’s nice and also important for every relationship. There is a but to that advice which is footing the bills always. Ladies, you are supposed to be his girlfriend and not his mother so you shouldn’t be footing the bills all the time. Your man should be a man and do the things he has to do in his relationship.
6. HAVE S*X WITHOUT PROTECTION
Some guys still go around with the story that if you truly love them, you should make love to them without protection and I call that bullsh*t. Some also tell their ladies that if they trust them, they should have s*x without protection. Please ladies, do not fall for this crab. Having s*x with protection doesn’t mean you don’t love your boyfriend or trust him, it simply means you want to do what is right and avoid unfortunate situations like unwanted pregnancies and also STDs.
7. DO WEIRD S*X STUFFS
I am all for experimenting in bed and making it spontaneous but that doesn’t mean I should force the woman I am with to do whatever I want in bed. I respect her so much so if she says “no baby, I can’t do this”, I always respect that and I expect that from every man out there too. So ladies, while experimenting in bed is wonderful, if you know you are not comfortable with the idea, you have every right to say NO. You shouldn’t do weird s*x stuffs you aren’t comfortable with all in the name of love.
8. HAVE A COMPLETE WARDROBE OVERHAUL
Every woman has her own unique fashion sense. It’s okay for your boyfriend to add a few tweaks here and there but I am against a complete wardrobe overhaul. When your boyfriend met you, he knew you dressed in a certain way so if he wasn’t comfortable with the way you dress, he shouldn’t have asked you out. It’s as simple as that. So ladies, no boyfriend (in this world or the world to come,lol) should pressure you to dress in a way that isn’t you. I always advise ladies to never alter their appearance for the approval of a man. If your boyfriend finds your dress sense appalling, please look for a man who appreciates the way you dress. You should be comfortable and confident in what you wear; don’t discomfort yourself by wearing clothes you aren’t comfortable in just because your man said so.
9. GIVE YOUR BOYFRIEND MONTHLY ALLOWANCES
I hear some ladies give their boyfriends monthly allowances all in the name of love. Nice one for the ladies that actually do that but please don’t complain your man doesn’t want to be useful with himself and get himself a job. I am against ladies doing this as it encourages men to be lazy. Please don’t get me wrong. I am not saying you can’t help your man out sometimes when he is broke, you should but are you supposed to be giving him allowances every week or month? Please you are his girlfriend and not his mother. If you have a man that just sits at home playing video games with friends and waits for you to take care of him, please quit that relationship.
Hope I passed my message across. Sorry brothers but I just had to do this. Love you all.
Phil