Oftentimes, as a man, you find yourself trying really hard to impress that new chick in your office or your neighbourhood who just caught your fancy, but sometimes, no matter what you do or how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get her to like you back (or notice you, at least) –and when this becomes a recurring experience, you tend to think that maybe something is wrong with you. Well, I’m sorry to tell you, but you’re absolutely correct— everything is wrong with your person. Now, before you get all mad, brother, allow me to clarify.
You see, women are like bees; bees feed on flowers, but not just any flower –they only go for those with the sweetest smell and taste. That lady isn’t going to fall for you just because you’re a man with a tail in between your legs, no!–heck, she gets about a dozen like that come to her every week, and she gives them all the same cold treatment because they’re not what she craves. She’s looking for something different; a man who stands out from the pack. She wants someone with a personality and aura. She wants someone who can set her heart racing without having to try too hard, and unless you fit the frame, you’ll NEVER stand a chance. Women are not like us, men who are easily swayed, no –to stir up their interest, you got to have more than a pretty face and a fancy car (believe me, women never fall for those, if they do, they’ll surely leave the same way they came). ‘How then, can I get her to like me?’, you may ask–not much, actually. All you need to do is use the simple tips I’m about to give you, and you’ll notice a remarkable turnaround.
1. BE CONFIDENT AND OUTSPOKEN
Women can spot a confident man from a mile away. If you lack confidence, do not even bother asking her out because she wouldn’t be interested. She wants someone who can stand up and speak for himself if need be. Someone who can take charge of situations, and not let others run his life for him. A confident man speaks with assurance, he doesn’t avoid eye contact (that’s a sign of weakness), and he always presses his opinions home. Women want to be in a relationship with a real man, not a sissy.
The key to being confident is in being sure of yourself; in your opinions, beliefs and ideas, and sticking to them.
NB: being confident and outspoken isn’t the same as being arrogant. Being outspoken is attractive, arrogance is a huge turnoff.
2. BE CARING AND SENSITIVE TO ISSUES RELATING TO HER
Simple phone calls or texts to the lady you admire can speak volumes. Don’t just wait till you see her in person before you ask her of her well-being, occasionally, call her up or text her to check up on her, and remember to keep it as platonic as possible, do not try to get intimate with your gestures so you don’t put her off. Try to know about the issues in her life, and if required, throw in some support. Showing genuine interest and care in her general well-being will endear her to you and give you a special spot in her heart because women generally appreciate care if they sense it’s genuine. However, be careful not to stalk or pester her in your show of genuine care and affection; know that there is a limit. Instead of calling to check on her 2/3 times every day, make it 3 times a week. She’s just a friend you admire, not your girlfriend…yet.
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