Suffering from a heartbreaking relationship can damage one’s soul; so many people have committed suicide just because they were jilted by their lovers and left to suffer so much pain afterwards.
No one loves to be heartbroken; it’s probably the worst feeling one can suffer from a relationship.
As bad as heartbreak might be, they are also preventable, and these are some ways you can prevent yourself from suffering the pangs of heartbreak.
1. NOT EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU ENTER WOULD BE SUCCESSFUL
This is the first truth you should have in mind about relationships. Not all would be successful, not all would lead to marriage, not all would be what you thought it was in the beginning — but all can make you wiser and stronger. So you ought to learn from every relationship you have had.
2. LOVE WITH YOUR HEAD TOO
Loving with your heart is what makes love beautiful, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put your brain to use; the fact that you love your partner doesn’t mean you shouldn’t critically study your relationship, where it’s heading and who your partner really is. When you do this, you lower the chances of being hurt in your relationship.
3. DON’T LET LOVE BLIND THE TRUTH
Love could blind someone’s eyes to the truth, not because they don’t know the truth, but they just don’t want to see it or believe it’s true — and people like these end up being hurt time after time.
Call a spade, a spade; if your partner is a cheat, don’t pretend that he/she isn’t; if your partner is dishonest and deceitful, don’t pretend otherwise. A lot of people turn a blind eye to their partner’s ways and pay the price for it.
4. DON’T BE TOO HASTY
Another reason people get heartbroken in their relationship is because they rush into things; they are always in a haste to be in a relationship, and many pay for this mistake with the feeling of being heartbroken. Take things slow and steady; be sure of who you are going into that relationship with and study where the relationship is heading.
5. IT’S NOT WHAT THEY SAY BUT WHAT THEY DO
A lot of people get carried away with what their partners say that they pay little attention to what they do. What your partner shows you is much more important than what your partner says to you.
6. LEARN TO TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
Instinct is different from presumption; most times your instincts about a person or situation turns out to be true, but most people don’t trust their instincts and cry out later in regrets.
7. DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS
This is another major reason people get heartbroken in relationships; they settle for less than they deserve and in turn pay for what they didn’t bargain. Don’t compromise; know what you want from a partner and relationship and don’t settle for less.
8. BE CONFIDENT
Be confident and assure of yourself; people with this trait rarely get heartbroken, and even when they do, they come back bolder and stronger.
9. STUDY WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP IS HEADING
Study where the relationship is heading, know what your partner wants from you in the future and always remember — it isn’t what your partner says but what your partner shows.
Suffering from heartbreak can be a hurtful experience, but it’s preventable.
ViV