Marriage is more than a mere relationship and it’s right time people start treating it thus. Your spouse is more than that person you sleep and wake up with every morning, and the vows you make aren’t just a promise — they go beyond that.
Having established this, it’s important to correct some mistakes many men are making that are endangering their marriage.
1. STOP TREATING YOUR WIFE LIKE AN OPTION
Your wife isn’t an option but a part of your life and you vowed that she’ll remain a huge part of your life the rest of your days. In the way you talk to her, in how you treat her and how you prioritise her, you should show her that she isn’t just an option, but an important part of you.
2. STOP SETTING BAD EXAMPLES FOR YOUR CHILDREN
You can’t be a bad husband and then be a good father; it isn’t just possible. Your wife is the mother of your children, and by the way you treat her, you also set examples for your children. If you hit her, shout at her and treat her wrongly, then you are telling your sons that it’s okay to hit and shout at a woman and you are telling your daughters that it’s okay to be beaten.
3. STOP SUPPRESSING HER VOICE
Stop suppressing her voice; a good man listens to the voice of his wife, but an immature man suppresses her voice. Stop suppressing the voice of your wife; make her feel a part of the home by giving her a voice.
4. NEVER MAKE HER FEEL UNSAFE
Don’t for any reason make her position feel threatened. She’s to be the queen of the home, your flirtatious relationship with other women will make her feel unsafe. Make her the queen and the only queen.
5. SPENDING TIME ON OTHER THINGS
Your wife should be a priority; don’t make your friends, hobbies and other things take her place. A lot of men are guilty of this and that needs to change.
6. SCARCE COMMUNICATION
It’s only an irresponsible man who wouldn’t communicate with his wife. Every woman needs to be communicated to; communication makes her feel loved and important. Let her in on your plans, talk to her and listen to what she has to say. You married a woman with emotions and blood running through her veins, not a dummy.
7. CHECKING OUT OTHER WOMEN
Whether or not you don’t get to lust after them, you should give your wife the honour of keeping your eyes for her only. It’s unfair and disrespectful to check out other women especially when your wife is right there with you. Self-control is very important in marriage and men should know this.
8. EXPECTING HER TO DO ALL THE CHORES
It’s archaic and unfair to relegate your wife to the role of a maid. She deserves your love and affection; don’t expect her to do all the chores around the home. Help her out, ease the burden on her and you’d enjoy your marriage with her.
9. MAKING YOUR WIFE FEEL LESS THAN FAMILY
Your wife is your family and you should treat her that way. It’s unfortunate that a lot of men still place their families (mum, dad and siblings) over their wife. Your new family deserves even more love from you.
Have you been guilty of these things? It’s time to make amends.
Shawn