You could be in a relationship / marriage where your partner could be ruining your life even without you noticing. Sometimes, your partner could even have good intentions for you but their good intentions may not be what’s good for you.
Below are some of the things which your partner does that’s ruining your life.
1. MAKE YOU LOSE YOUR FRIENDS
In some relationships and marriages, some people (men and women inclusive) make their partners let go of their friends, while some even do things that would cut off their partner from their friends.
Except that friend of yours is negatively ruining your life and relationship then it’s unfair to lose your friends. Friends are a big part of our lives and losing friends who have been there for you for years is just unfair.
2. YOUR PARTNER MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE NOTHING
This is another toxic way your partner could really ruin your life in a relationship. Your partner should make you feel like you are worth it and not the other way round. When your partner starts making you feel like you aren’t worth it then that relationship could damage your self-esteem in the long run.
3. WHEN THEY TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE
Being in a relationship / marriage doesn’t necessarily mean that you lose control of your life. I’ve seen people try to take total control of their partner’s life and that’s really unhealthy. When your partner makes all your decisions for you and takes control of your life and everything in the relationship then that’s toxic and you could lose yourself in the long run in that relationship.
4. WHEN THEY MAKE YOU AFRAID
Your partner should make you feel loved and respected, but when you rather become afraid of your partner then your partner has subjected you to fear — and fear should never be found in a relationship.
5. WHEN THEY FORCE YOU TO DO THINGS YOU AREN’T COMFORTABLE WITH
Your partner could ruin your life by forcing you to do things that you aren’t comfortable with — dangerous things especially. We have seen many people get into trouble and live a wrong life simply because they were forced into something by their partner.
6. THEY TRY TO OWN YOU WITH THE “YOU OWE ME” ATTITUDE
When your partner tries to take control of your life by continually making you feel like you owe them then that’s a terrible situation to be in. You would live the rest of your life in that relationship like you owe them.
7. WHEN THEY INFLICT INJURIES ON YOU
Your relationship shouldn’t be a battle ground; when love and respect isn’t present then it could result in these kinds of incidences. When you are in a relationship where violence persists or you are repeatedly being hit and beaten by your partner then that relationship isn’t really for you — you are ruining your life in that relationship.
8. WHEN THEY MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE THEY CAN DO WITHOUT YOU BUT YOU CAN’T DO WITHOUT THEM
A lot of partners have this attitude and it’s really unfair. When your partner makes you feel like they can do without you but you can’t do without them, then that shows that your partner is trying to break your spirit, and you shouldn’t let that happen.
9. WHEN YOU ARE NEVER APPRECIATED
A relationship where your partner criticises you for everything, blames you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship but never appreciates you for anything then that your partner is ruining your life, because over a period of time you could get that mentality that nothing you do would ever be right — you could lose belief in yourself.
When your partner do these nine things to you, they are directly or indirectly ruining your life without them knowing.
ShawnÂ