Long distance relationship is one harsh reality that sometimes befalls us; in the bid to better our lives and fend for ourselves we sometimes have to go far away to pursue that cause.
It’s even harder when you are married and your partner is always far away — the chores, the kids, the loneliness all make for a drastic combination.
But life ought to go on, you have to survive and live through it, especially when there isn’t another option — a lot of people lose it when their partner is away, but these tips would surely provide insights on how to survive when that spouse is gone.
1. ACCEPT THE FACTS
Where a lot of people have problems is when they refuse to accept certain facts; you need to accept the facts that your partner has to be away and be understanding about it, even though it won’t be easy for you. If you can’t accept the facts then your life would be a living hell — a lot of women get angry when their man has to go away on job trips, forgetting he’s trying to provide for the family — if he can’t do this, you take away the man in him. How understanding you are would play a huge role in how you’d be able to live in his absence.
2. BE PREPARED TO ADJUST
This is another important tip that could come in handy. When your man is around, your daily life would include him, but that can’t be said when he is far away; so be prepared to adjust things in the house and your lifestyle to suit you. You might actually get worked up if you still keep living like he never left. This is also important when you have kids.
3. HAVE FUN
Being a total workaholic in this kind of situation could leave you being stressed out and make you lose your identity in the process. Plan for a fun time with your kids, have a good time with friends and family, let people you love into your lives…and like they say — “time flies when you’re having fun”.
4. FIND YOUR LONE TIME
Try to squeeze in time for yourself no matter how little it is. During your lone time, do things you love, and you can also use this time to meditate — it helps.
5. DO NOT GIVE ROOM FOR WORRY
This is another error a lot of women make — worry. Worry won’t solve anything, it won’t add any good, but it would add a lot of negatives. If you give a second room to worry, it would pile up for hours and days till you find yourself worrying and complaining about everything every time.
6. CHERISH THE FEW MOMENTS YOU GET TO SPEND TOGETHER
If you are in this type of relationship or marriage, you have to make most of the times you have to spend with your partner worth it; have lots of fun and enjoy every moment together. Also, even in his absence, enjoy the calls and video calls moment — just try to have fun; it isn’t easy really, but there’s hardly a better option.
7. BE EASY ON YOURSELF
You might have a lot of chores to do, a lot of things to take care of and even your job and career to think of, and of course kids; those are a lot, but just do what’s necessary and learn to accept that you just can’t do everything at the same time.
8. HAVE SOME SLEEP
A lack of sleep would increase your stress levels, and this can even cause you to always feel weak and even sick — when this happens, you would be tempted to pour all the blames on your partner. Try to have time to rest; your sleep is just as well important.
9. Accept help; there is nothing wrong in accepting help where possible.
Being in a marriage where your partner isn’t always there is not an easy ordeal, but to live a happy life, you have to find a means of survival, and that’s what these tips are all about.
ViV