9 COSTLY RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES TO AVOID MAKING

If you don’t consciously work hard to improve on so many things in your life or relationship, it would never improve. You can make your relationship better by avoiding many mistakes couples make in their relationship.

Here are 9 costly mistakes to avoid in your relationship

1. NOT PAYING ATTENTION

Everyone loves attention, and when it’s attention from someone you love then that’s a big plus. Not paying attention to your partner would gradually lead to the demise of the relationship. Paying attention means you care for your partner and you’re ready to be there for that person, a lack of it shows the opposite. Don’t be too busy and forget to pay attention to that partner—it hurts.

2. JUMPING INTO CONCLUSIONS

This is also another terrible mistake couples are fond of that leads to fights and quarrels in a relationship. Rather than jumping into conclusion about your partner’s motive or action, it’s best you ask your partner directly. Jumping into conclusion would only lead to more heated arguments and less love; do you really want that for your relationship?

3. UNNECESSARY FIGHTING

Self-control is a good virtue, and it’s so surprising that it’s lacking in so many relationships. Some couples tend to fight at the slightest instance and for unjust reasons. Some relationship partners can’t even watch a 2-hour movie together without having an argument—it’s bad, unnecessary and uncalled for.

4. NOT WORKING ON YOUR FLAWS

We all have parts of our lives that we should improve on, and failing to do that is a costly mistake which can harm a relationship permanently; it could be anger, selfishness, intolerance, malice, nagging, being too critical and the rest of it. Check your flaws, work on yourself, because not doing so is a huge mistake on its own.

5. COMPLACENCY IN THE ROMANCE DEPARTMENT

Romance has a lot to do with the passion of a relationship; if you kill the romance, you kill the passion and if the passion is dead, even love might not be left in that relationship. Make every moment with your partner count; don’t get complacent with being romantic and passionate about your relationship.

6. TRYING TO CONTROL THE RELATIONSHIP

This is bad! This is bad! This is bad! Taking control of the relationship means subduing your partner and that’s a wrong thing to do if you want your relationship to blossom. Many people tend to be control freaks even without knowing—you might get your partner tired of you with such an attitude.

7. NOT BEING APPRECIATIVE

Everything our partner does for us should always be appreciated; special emphasis on everything. Like we all know, showing appreciation would even make our partner do more, besides that, showing appreciation would make your partner love and appreciate you the more. Waiting till your partner brings the White House to you before you appreciate that person is a terrible act.

8. TRYING TO CHANGE A PARTNER

I would always say this; no one can actually change a person, the only thing you can do is influence that person. Trying to change your partner is a bad tactic that almost always backfires.

9. NOT LISTENING TO OUR PARTNERS

A relationship is better, it’s more enjoyable when both partner listen to each other and care about each other’s thoughts and put it into consideration as well. When you don’t have listening ear for your partner and your partner does the same, your relationship would suffer.

These 9 mistakes are common mistakes which couples make in their marriage and relationships; these mistakes aren’t ordinary as they can ruin a relationship—they are costly, avoid them and have a better relationship.

Shawn