Mistakes are what kill a relationship. Some mistakes might seem little, but when you keep making them, they endanger your relationship and it wouldn’t take long for the relationship to become toxic.
Toxic relationships don’t happen in a day, they build gradually, and these mistakes women make can make their relationship become toxic.
1. NOT APPRECIATING ENOUGH
It’s easy to get used to the fact that you have a good man in your life, it’s easy to get used to the things you do, it’s easy to get used to his love and then take it for granted. But then, this mistake can ruin your relationship and every good thing in it.
2. UNDERVALUING YOURSELF
A lot of women feel they aren’t good enough. They have low self-esteem and wish they were someone else. Some women feel they can’t get a good man, and when they do, they become scared of the relationship — just because they undervalue themselves.
This is a big relationship mistake. When you see yourself as “not good enough”, you make it easy for your man to see you that way.
3. NOT MAKING YOUR MAN A PRIORITY
If you have a man that makes you his priority, you should also make him your priority. You ought to value your relationship with him and treat him like he’s special. When you put him in second place, it wouldn’t take long for the relationship to deteriorate.
4. YOU LIVE IN FANTASY
This is another common mistake women make that they shouldn’t. When you have unrealistic expectations of your man or the relationship, you will never feel satisfied in that relationship. You can never have a practical relationship when you live in fantasy.
5. YOU COMPARE YOUR MAN/RELATIONSHIP
Ladies, never ever compare your man to another man, and never compare your relationship with another’s. You lose sight of the values of your man/relationship when you do this, and worse still – you put your relationship under pressure.
Every relationship has its flaws which you wouldn’t even know of; the grass might look greener on the other side doesn’t mean it’s actually greener.
6. YOU DON’T COMMUNICATE
It’s dangerous not to communicate with your man; it’s dangerous to not express how you feel, it’s dangerous not to talk about your feelings and expectations, it’s dangerous not to talk regularly, it’s dangerous not to care about his feelings, it’s dangerous not to talk about what’s going on in his life, it’s dangerous not to check on him.
Communicate is very important, and you make a huge relationship mistake when you don’t communicate with your man.
7. YOU WITHHOLD AFFECTION
I’ve seen women withhold affection for their selfish interest, but then this mistake is one that can backfire. Even if it doesn’t backfire, withholding affection is a sign of selfishness. Your man deserves your love and affection at all times.
8. YOU TRY TO CHANGE OR CONTROL HIM
Trying to change your man from who he is to who he is not is a mistake that you shouldn’t make. Worse still, a lot of women try to control their man, control their relationship and want their will alone to be done, and this is wrong.
9. YOU DON’T DEVELOP YOURSELF
Many women stagnate in life; they don’t care about bettering themselves, they don’t care about developing themselves — they only look for a man to complete them, and this is a huge mistake.
Never stop developing yourself in various aspects of your life just because you have a man. Your attitude is another important aspect of your life you should improve on every day, and your man will love you more when he sees a better you. However, when you choose to be stagnated, he could see you as ordinary over time and won’t value you anymore.
This article doesn’t point at you being imperfect or try to pressure you to being perfect; it’s just an eye-opener to being a better version of who you are, and a reminder of certain mistakes you might make that could be too costly for your relationship.
Shawn