Everyone has ego; I have ego, you have ego, we all have ego; it’s a natural instinct that’s placed in all humans. Ego isn’t bad per say but the degree of your ego is what can kill your relationship.
Some people have very ‘big egos’ and those big egos are things that can easily kill a relationship. For a relationship to survive both partners have to a certain extent cut down on their egos.
Do not be deceived, ego can kill your relationship; I’d share eight ways ego can hurt your relationship.
1. YOU NEVER SEE YOUR MISTAKES
Ego has a wicked way of making you perfect- not in your partner’s eyes, not in the world’s eyes but in your eyes alone. If you see yourself as ”Mr perfect” or “Miss perfect” then you would never have a successful relationship, and ego would wickedly make you think you are perfect.
2. YOU FEEL BETTER THAN YOUR PARTNER
Some people in relationships think they are superior to their partner; a relationship would never work this way but ego can make you deem your partner as weaker or more inferior person; this is a normal occurrence even in marriages, and if this trait is part of a relationship, true love would be far from that relationship.
3. YOU LOSE VALUE OF WHAT YOU HAVE
Ego can make you feel so elevated that you lose sight of your partner’s value, and you know what they say about the value of something- ‘’you never value what you have until you lose it’’. Ego can make you think you are the world’s best man or make you feel like you are the most beautiful person on earth, and this would make you lose sight of the value of your partner and kill your relationship in the long run.
4. COOPERATION WOULD BE FAR OFF
Ego and cooperation run in separate lines, meaning they can never cross path, and you should know that you have to build cooperation in your relationship to make it work. Ego kills the cooperation in a relationship and lack of cooperation would ruin your relationship. Ego can make you not see any point in your partner’s views and that would mean no understanding in your relationship.
5. YOU WOULD HARDLY LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER
No man is an island and literally no single person can make an island; for a relationship to survive there has to be effective communication between both partners- you have to listen to your partner and your partner has to listen to you else the relationship would fall apart, and that’s what ego can do to you; ego can make you listen to yourself alone, making your relationship a one-man relationship, and you should know that wouldn’t work.
6. YOU WOULD BE A TERRIBLE LOVER
You can’t be a good lover and have huge ego; ego and love can never go hand in hand; you can have ego outside your relationship but never in your relationship. All great relationships happen when both partners cut their egos and work hard for a better relationship; so if you want to be a good lover, cut ego off your relationship.
That word ‘me’ is a word that shouldn’t exist in a relationship; ‘me’ is ungrateful, ‘me’ lacks understanding, ‘me’ is selfish and ‘me’ is a product of ego. Ego makes you selfish, ego makes you think the relationship is more about you and no relationship can survive this way.
8. LACK OF RESPECT
Ego brings disrespect; a man has to respect his lady and vice versa for the relationship to succeed. So many relationships falter because of this lack of respect. All the aforementioned qualities sums what ego can do to a relationship and disrespect just adds the icing to the cake. In a relationship where the woman is the bread winner or is richer than her man, this can make her have a huge ego and disrespect to her man can step in; even in relationships where men are super rich, it can make ego to step in.
Like I pointed out in this article, ego is one dangerous personality trait that would ruin your relationship; take ego out of your relationship and you would solve over 50 percent of your relationship troubles. Ego would do no good to your relationship.