Many women jump into marriage at the sight of a diamond crusted ring, and rush to the altar to say “I do”, only to get married and find out that they were ill-prepared for the journey.
Marriage is a journey, and a journey that’ll last many years. For a woman to be successful in this journey of marriage, she must have these tools:
1. AN UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT SHE WANTS IN A MAN
What do you want in a man? What kind of man will suit your person? A woman should have this understanding of who she wants and not rush at the richest man that comes her way. There is a reason a man gets to ask you “will you marry me?” And you ought to know why you are saying yes or no to that man.
2. A SELFLESS HEART
You can’t be a selfish woman and be successfully married. For your marriage to work, there ought to be selflessness, and if you only think and care about yourself, then marriage isn’t for you yet.
3. A SUPPORT SYSTEM
Every woman must learn to be a ‘help meet’ in the home and a support system; you ought to be your man’s biggest fan, his biggest supporter and the one to pick him up when he’s going down.
4. THE ABILITY TO MANAGE
While a man is the head of the family, a woman is the manager of the home. A woman who’s bad at managing resources will be terrible at managing a home. You ought to learn this skill before getting married.
5. WISDOM OF HOW TO HANDLE A MAN
Even the most difficult of men have a weak point, so if you are the kind of woman who trades words with her man, then you need to have a rethink. Before getting married to any man, you ought to have an understanding of who he is, his strengths and weaknesses, and use them both to strengthen the marriage and not weaken it.
6. KNOWLEDGE OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT
Who are you? What do you want in life? What do you want in marriage? You need to have this understanding before getting married. If you can have this understanding, you’ll make a better choice.
Every woman ought to have confidence in herself; when you are a confident woman, you’ll make your man go the extra mile for you, because confidence brings charm. But you need to understand that confidence and pride are two different things; never mistake pride for confidence.
8. INNER BEAUTY
A woman’s inner beauty will add that kind of charm that even beats facial beauty. Inner beauty comes from within and it makes you glow. You make yourself easier to love when you have beauty from within. Every woman should strive to have this.
As a lady, it shouldn’t just be about getting married; you ought to know/have these things before getting married.