8 BITTER TRUTHS ABOUT MARRIAGE

So many enter the marriage institution unprepared. To some, marriage is as simple as ABC so there is little or no reason to enter into it prepared.

With the right partner, the right attitude and the right mentality, one can have an enjoyable marriage; but there are some certain bitter truths you ought to know before making that journey – they would help your path.

1. NEVER COMPARE YOUR PARTNER OR YOUR MARRIAGE

One mistake people make is comparing their spouse to another or their marriage to another; with this, you’re steering your marriage the wrong way. Not every couple that smiles and plays together outside enjoy their marriage when they are behind closed doors; so do not envy them, and making unhealthy comparisons would only bring enmity into your marriage. Instead, focus on your marriage and do your best to make it better.

2. IF YOU AREN’T READY TO COMPROMISE THEN YOU AREN’T READY FOR MARRIAGE

For two people to build any form of understanding then they ought to be ready to compromise certain things. You have to learn to let go, you have to be unselfish and think little about yourself and more of your marriage for it to be successful.

3. YOU WON’T ALWAYS BE HAPPY

Yes, you love your partner and your partner loves you; but this doesn’t certainly mean you won’t encounter difficulties, misunderstandings and conflicts along the way. However, what would make your love thicker and the relationship firmer is your ability to resolve conflicts before it escalates. But if you’re looking for a marriage where there would be zero percent conflict then you should try marrying a robot.

4. YOUR WEDDING VOWS DOESN’T MEAN A THING

Your wedding hardly means a thing, being engaged doesn’t mean a thing, the wedding vows doesn’t also mean a thing if you aren’t ready for marriage. Research has even found that couples who buy very expensive engagement rings and who have expensive weddings are more likely to divorce. People place so much emphasis on having the perfect wedding forgetting that they ought to even put in more efforts into the real marriage itself. Research has even found that couples who worked hard to keeping their romantic lives in order were able to resolve their conflicts smoothly. So marriage needs work, effort and commitment.

5. HOW YOU HANDLE MONEY PROBLEMS CAN MAKE OR MAR YOUR MARRIAGE

Money makes the world go round they say, and money can also make your marriage go round if you aren’t careful. Research has found that conflicts over money is prevalent in many marriages, and how couples handle their conflicts regarding money issues can go a long way in determining if that marriage would be successful or not. The second tip about compromising needs to come to the fore here for money issues to be resolved amicably.

6. FAMILY STILL MATTERS

You feel you are married now and with your own family, so your family rarely matters; but that’s untrue. It’s hard to cut ties with your family that’s been there for you all your life or that of your spouse. So, in a way, family always matters. How you keep yourself and your spouse’s ties intact with their family can go a long way; there should be respect for each other’s family.

7. IF YOU HAVE COMMITMENT ISSUES DURING COURTSHIP, IT COULD STAY SAME WHEN MARRIED 

If you can’t stay faithful when courting your partner, you are also more likely to cheat when married. Waiting till marriage before learning to be faithful could be a waste of effort.

8. CHANGE WHAT YOU HATE DURING COURTSHIP

One big mistake couples make is waiting till marriage time before trying to change certain habits of their partner that they don’t like. Courtship is the best time to change what you don’t like in your partner; if you can’t change it then, you should be ready to live with it when married, or turn down the marriage if need be. Courtship provides that blueprint for what to expect in marriage.

These are some bitter truths you should be ready to face in marriage.

Phil