While the guy and the lady ought to take responsibility for the success of their relationship, this article seeks to focus on guys and how they ruin a good relationship without even knowing it.
Below are 7 behaviours guys have that destroy their relationship
1. YOU DON’T GET CLOSE ENOUGH
Not getting close enough to your partner might destroy your relationship because a lady longs to connect with her man. Being affectionate only when you need sex or something from her is so wrong and destroys your relationship before you know it. Make your girlfriend feel close to you by talking with her, hugging her often, holding her hands, kissing her unexpectedly, sitting close to her, asking her how she’s doing and spending time alone with her. Doing this would help her feel connected to you and when she feels connected to you, she would be more willing to engage with you on a more intimate, sexual level.
2. YOU DON’T SAY YOU’RE SORRY
Conflicts are part of every relationship and not apologising quickly after a conflict is a very fast way of destroying your relationship with her. The problem most guys have is that they see apologising as a sign of weakness and this is so wrong. I instead see it as a sign of strength. When you apologise, you let her know that you are open and willing to make things work. Apologising also shows that you care enough to admit your faults and move past it.
3. YOU NEGLECT THE SMALL THINGS
I find that most guys think getting a lady fancy jewellery and taking her to expensive restaurants is all that matters. These gestures are nice but it isn’t always necessary. Neglecting the small things can cost you your relationship because she feels loved and appreciated by the small tokens of your love and appreciation. Don’t neglect the small things like calling or texting her during the day to let her know you are thinking of her, cooking her dinner etc.
4. YOU DON’T SPEND ENOUGH TIME WITH HER
Leaving her alone and not spending enough time with her is another quick way to destroy your relationship. Every lady hates being isolated and most guys do this without even knowing. It’s either they are too busy with work or they are hanging out with the boys; they rarely create time to be with the woman they say they love. When she begins to nag because you never spend time with her, chances are she’s feeling abandoned and isolated. Every lady wants to spend quality time with the man she loves and not doing this creates an emotional distance between you and her.
5. YOU TAKE THE FUN OUT OF SEX
You destroy your relationship quickly when you take the fun out of sex. You destroy your relationship when you neglect her sexual needs and only think of your own pleasure during sex. Sex is supposed to be fun and try not to make it boring. Show her you care all the time and not only when you need sex.
6. YOU DON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
Not taking responsibility for your weaknesses and blaming it on her is another quick way to destroy your relationship. Learn to take full responsibility for your own behaviour as a man. Stop blaming her for being the reason you cheated. Rather than blaming her and every one else, stand up and take control. Learn to be the man and take responsibility. Don’t blame her for getting pregnant, that’s childish and not being a man. You shouldn’t be having sex if you think you are not ready to be a father. You need to take ownership of your actions.
7. YOU TAKE HER INSECURITIES TOO LIGHTLY
Taking her insecurities too lightly isn’t something you should do as this would destroy your relationship. If you know she isn’t comfortable with you staring at other ladies, please for the sake of your relationship, stop staring. Staring at other women could make her insecure and doesn’t reassure her of your faithfulness and commitment. I understand it’s natural for men to just stare at other ladies but when you know she isn’t comfortable with you staring, please stop and don’t stare. Learn to give your woman the assurance she seeks.
Phil