Everyone that’s in a relationship wants to be a better lover, but who really is a better lover and why is it so important to be a better lover? A quick look at the dictionary describes a lover as a person in love, but we all know that being in love doesn’t actually mean you are a good lover; so that means there is a good and a bad lover.
Think of some relationships that you have been in or even your present relationship; when you think of some of your partners, you feel so agitated and still when you remember some, a quick smile lights up your face.
The big question is: who is a good lover and how can one be a better lover?
A good lover is that partner that leaves smiles on the face of their partner.
7 tips to being a better lover
1. UNDERSTANDING
Shouting at your partner, raising the roof and throwing insults at the slightest provocation would never make you a better lover. To be a better lover, building understanding in your relationship is highly important and you can never build understanding in your relationship if you don’t understand your partner. This can be achieved by avoiding that temptation to act on impulse at the slightest provocation.
2. LISTENING
The ability to listen is one that’s always being emphasized upon and rarely adhered to. Every lady loves that man who can listen to her; listening is the first step to communication; when you listen to her then you would understand her better. You can’t build understanding in your relationship when you don’t listen. A lady’s voice needs to be heard too.
3. DATES ARE NEVER A CLICHE
Taking your lady out on dates would always make her feel special; it shows you care about her, it shows you care about the relationship and it would as well build the bond in the relationship. Going on dates add a special and different feeling to a relationship and every man should know this.
4. BE ROMANTIC
Have you ever thought of why every lady loves a man who’s romantic man? Ladies are drawn to a man that can awe them and a romantic man would always do that. Never wait for a birthday, event or anniversary to spring up a surprise; never wait till your relationship is going down the hill before you do something extra. The best tip to being a more romantic partner is living every day like it was your first—the reason is, when a man meets a lady for the first time, he’s ready to do everything to show that he cares; that mentality should never be lost.
5. DON’T BE TOO ARROGANT TO SHOW YOUR FEELINGS
Most women see men as being stony-hearted, that it’s now a cliché. Being confident is a good thing but I doubt the significance of being arrogant. If you really care about your lady then don’t be too hard-hearted to show it; show her you love her through your words and in your actions.
6. DON’T JUST BE A LOVER, BE HER FRIEND
A relationship is more fun and enjoyable when partners aren’t just lovers but friends; if you can’t be friends with her then you can’t be a better lover. A relationship is boring when there is no fun, no play and no jokes—that’s a rigid relationship. Being friends with her might mean you’d have to put up with a bit more feminine things but it doesn’t matter—be her friend and then be her, and you would definitely be a better lover.
7. COMPLIMENT HER
Complimenting your lady shows that you appreciate her and every lady loves to be appreciated. Every woman loves it when her man sees her as beautiful, as an angel and the best woman he could ask for. Complimenting your lady is never ordinary; it’s the key to always putting a smile on her face.
Being a better lover doesn’t always have to be in the sheets; if you don’t know, the non-sexual part of a relationship affects even the sexual part of a relationship. Be the better man, be the better lover.
ViV
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