We’ve all too seen a familiar story where exes come back, make up, date again, break up and hate each other afresh. This is an all familiar story, but it’s one that keep happening countless times.
While on some occasions, some exes come back after months or even years, have a better relationship and even get married, it’s rare when compared to exes that come back, only to leave for the same reason they broke up in the first place.
These are some of the reasons going back to an ex is a waste of time.
1. IT’S MOSTLY FOR THE WRONG REASONS
When people decide to go back to an ex, it’s usually for the wrong reasons. Sometimes, it’s because they have missed the sex, missed their company, are infatuated by their looks and some other irrelevant reasons.
It usually isn’t because of the love, or because they are both ready to work to make things better, but for one irrelevant feeling or emotion — and it would only be a waste of time if it’s the wrong reason that’s taking you back to an ex.
2. TIME DOESN’T CHANGE PEOPLE
Some people have this belief that with time people would change, but that isn’t true. Time doesn’t change people, but people change with time, only if they make conscious efforts to change.
You can be 30 and still reason and act like when you were 20. You can be 30 and still have the same issues that you had when you were 20. So time doesn’t change people; stop believing that your ex has changed over time. People only change when they want to.
3. GETTING HURT BY THE SAME PERSON AGAIN HURTS MORE
When you let your guard down for someone who has hurt you before and you decide to have that ex back only to be hurt in the process, you would find it hard to forgive yourself for such a mistake. The pain of being hurt twice by the same person is usually more.
4. THERE ARE MORE SUITABLE PEOPLE OUT THERE
Rather than go back to an ex who might waste your time with the same squabbles that ruined the relationship the other time, why not be with a new person, a more exciting and understanding partner — someone more different from your ex.
5. IT’S HARD TO SOLVE THE ISSUE OF COMPATIBILITY
You and your ex might still have strong feelings for each other, but even if you love each other and you aren’t compatible with each other, your relationship would still get ruined again. It’s mostly incompatibility that make couples fight and break up after a while.
Incompatibility problem is always a hard one to fix, and if it isn’t fixed, going back to that ex is only a waste of time.
6. IF YOU WEREN’T GOOD ENOUGH ONCE, YOU MIGHT NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH
Some people get dumped by their ex, because their ex tagged them as not being good enough. If you are in such a situation, going back to that ex is only a waste of time.
If your ex tagged as you not being good enough then you have nothing to prove to that ex. You can show them how good enough you are, but you don’t need to prove a point to them by going back.
7. DON’T GO BACK BECAUSE YOU ARE LONELY
Some people miss their ex because they miss companionship and are lonely. Going back to your ex for these reasons is merely a waste of time.
In eight out of nine situations, going back to an ex is usually a waste of time.
ViV
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