Relationships can be compared to a car engine, you don’t wake up every morning and drive off to wherever you want to go to without checking so many important things in the engine else your car might just break down. Likewise your relationship, you don’t wake up every day assuming that your relationship is intact without assessing your relationship; you might wake up one day only to realise that your relationship is on the verge of breaking down.
Relationships don’t break down in the twinkle of an eye, it does so gradually but sometimes people keep a blind eye to those things which should be checked regularly in the relationship just like the car engine.
7 pointers for assessing your relationship
1. COMMUNICATION LEVEL
Communication is an integral part of a relationship; a successful relationship is marked with frequent communication while a relationship that’s on the verge of breaking or is having cracks is marked by a lower level of communication. How well do you and your partner communicate with each other? Once communication begins to fade off then your relationship would begin to fade off as well, there are no two ways about this; so never let it get to this stage.
2. DESIRABILITY LEVEL
Desirability is important in any relationship and you notice this more in new relationships. Many relationship experts would always advice couples to maintain the passion in a relationship; this is so because once the passion in that relationship begins to wane then the relationship would suffer as well. How high is the passion or desirability level in your relationship?
3. TAKE THE QUIZ
You can take a self-test to examine how feel about your relationship; if you’re honest about how you feel then you would have all the answers you need about your relationship. Ask yourself questions like: am I enjoying this relationship? Would I rather be alone than be with my partner? Am I proud of where the relationship is going? Would I still love to be in this relationship in a few years’ time? The answers to these questions would reveal a lot and tell you how exactly you feel about your relationship.
4. IS ANYTHING COMING BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER?
Things come between couples in a relationship; some are external and some are internal; some are visible to the eyes while some aren’t. Family and friends can come between relationship partners; inward traits like ego, anger, selfishness and the lot can come between partners; even in marriages, kids can come between partners; sometimes it could also be that extra side chic or guy that could be coming between partners. Is anyone or anything coming between you and your partner?
Sex is always a definite pointer that reveals a lot about relationship cracks. Sometimes sex can feel empty with no passion, sometimes it could be just dry like something done out of necessity rather than of desire while sometimes the intimacy and passion level that comes with the sex could be passionate. It also doesn’t end with sex, even the attitude after sex means a lot; is there still that desire to be with each other or is it just one of those things? All these counts and those little details would reveal a lot as to how well the relationship is doing.
A relationship that’s on the right track is usually honest; the man is honest to the woman and likewise the woman is honest to the man. Once honesty seizes to exist in that relationship then it is a sign that so many things are going wrong behind the scenes. What’s the honesty level between you and your partner in that relationship?
A successful relationship is earmarked with sacrifices, couples are willing to give up things that they do that would harm the relationship, couples are ready to put in a lot to make sure the relationship remains successful. Once that desire to sacrifice for each other is lost then that relationship would gradually begin to falter till it reaches a point where it can’t be fixed again.
While most relationships fail without both partners noticing on time is because just like the car engine they refuse to check everything that’s needed to make the relationship move smoothly. No relationship breaks down at once, it gives signs that something should be worked on or improved and failure to do that would ruin the relationship.