It’s uncommon to find a relationship without fights and quarrels; what’s even more uncommon is when a couple has a seamless understanding and agreement over everything or even almost everything.
There are so many things that cause different couples to quarrel, and many of those are common in many relationships.
These are some of the most common causes of quarrels in many relationships and marriages.
1. MONEY QUARRELS
A survey about what people need in life would only reveal that money is probably the most important and most sought after commodity in the world today. Many quarrels, controversies and fights centres around money in one way or the other. Any couple without money or money related quarrels would definitely be among the most peaceful and most understanding on earth. Money quarrels aren’t subjected to the poor alone, even the average and rich ones have issues regarding money.
2. FIGHTS OVER NOTHING
Couples fight over nothing a lot of the time, and this is really surprising. It would surprise you that majority of couples fights emanates from little to nothing. Simple things like the tone of a partner’s voice lead to many relationship quarrels and more often than not, many couples sometimes don’t really know the real reason why they are having a fight or quarrel.
3. FIGHTS OVER THE PAST
Many partners don’t totally forgive and a relationship or marriage with this trait of not totally forgiving would always have quarrels or fights over past mistakes or events. Some people can’t let go of their partner’s past and most times use it as leverage against their partner.
Fights over a past mistake, past habit or past event are seen in many relationships and even marriages.
4. BAD HABITS
Bad habits are another reason why couples quarrel a lot. Bad habits are hard to live with and they are also hard to stop, and this contradictory reaction to bad habits would cause quarrels in the relationship.
5. JEALOUSY
Jealousy, suspicion and distrust also accounts for another major reason why couples quarrel a lot. When trust isn’t paramount in a relationship fights and quarrels would definitely emerge over even the slightest of things.
6. IN-LAWS
Family is always a close-knit group, and leaving your family to start another is a phase many people don’t adapt well too. Many marriages face different issues and quarrels just because of in-laws. Where to set boundary between in-law’s interfering in the marriage can sometimes lead to quarrels and dispute.
7. KIDS
It’s funny how children are supposed to be a blessing from God to every family, but somehow, a lot of couple’s quarrels and fights happen as a result of them. When couples have different ideologies on how to raise and discipline their kids, it would more likely lead to problems in that marriage.
Having a relationship with minimal quarrels and fights deserves commendation. Various things (little and big) make relationship suffer and lead to quarrels, and if care isn’t taken those quarrels could crush that union.
Shawn