Attraction might be deemed as peripheral and below-surface and not as important as love; but that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it. When the attraction starts to die, your relationship would tend to suffer too — there is no two ways about that.
Unfortunately, people tend to kill the attraction in their relationship by doing some of these things.
1. TOO MANY COMPLAINS
Being overly critical is one way a lot of people kill the attraction in their relationship; when you always complain about your partner, you tend to kill the bond between you and your partner.
2. QUARRELING OVER IRRELEVANT THINGS
Quarreling over irrelevant things can unknowingly kill the attraction in a relationship. Avoid quarrels over things that don’t matter in your relationship. Learn to let some things slide.
3. NOT TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF
Attraction is also physical, and it’s encouraged that you take care of yourself in spite of how your partner cares about you. People tend to kill the attraction in their relationship by thinking their partner should still remain attracted to them even though they look unkempt; but this is wrong.
4. BEING NONCHALANT
Nonchalance also kills attraction. Nonchalance in attitude, nonchalance in responsibilities and nonchalance in behaviour could create a divide between you and your partner, and this gap could also provide a bridge in how you feel about each other.
5. GRUDGES AND MALICE
Grudges and malice are sometimes unnecessary and done out of selfishness. When couples consistently let grudges and malice into their marriage and relationship, it could easily start building enmity in their hearts, and that’s how it starts till love then dies.
6. LISTENING TO OUTSIDE TALKS
Outside talks like what your friends think, what other people think and what they feel shouldn’t really hold ground more than what is actually happening in your relationship. When you tend to listen to outside talks, you could become influenced, and what you feel for your partner could as well suffer.
Attraction might look superficial, but it’s also important. When it dies, it wouldn’t take long for other things to die off.
Shawn