In many families, tension usually exists between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. Studies show that the mother-in-law, daughter-in-law relationship is the trickiest.
One major cause of the unhealthy rivalry between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is that they both don’t realise they love the same person and in turn treat each other as the enemy. I mean, every mother loves her son and every good wife loves her husband, so why can’t they unite their love for the same person rather than fight against each other?
According to a study of hundreds of families over two decades, more than 60 per cent of women admitted the relationship with their female in-law caused them long-term unhappiness and stress. This isn’t good, so it’s time to create a solution.
These tips would better every mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems.
1. THEY SHOULD SEE LOVE AS A UNIFYING FACTOR AND NOT A RIVALRY
They shouldn’t see each other as the enemy but rather understand that they share a common love for the same person. Let love be a unifying factor for both parties and not cause a rivalry.
2. THEY SHOULD HAVE RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER
When respect exists, it fosters better relations between people. The truth is most mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law don’t respect each other enough; many decisions they make signify that there is a lack of respect between them.
3. THEY SHOULD STOP USING THEIR INFLUENCE AGAINST EACH OTHER
Another major cause of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law drama is that they both try to use their influence against the other and this is totally wrong.
They should both use their influence on the man for better purposes rather than fight against each other.
4. STOP BEING OVERPROTECTIVE
Most mothers-in-law are overprotective and many wives too share this nature. You shouldn’t try to separate a man from his wife, just as you shouldn’t try to separate a mother from her son; this overprotective nature would only ruin the marriage.
5. THE MAN SHOULDN’T TAKE SIDES
Taking sides would only worsen the situation, and a lot of men tilt towards the side of their mothers leaving their wives unhappy and defenceless.
These are two people who matter to you, so it shouldn’t be about taking sides but making the right decisions to create peace in your family.
6. THE MAN SHOULD KNOW WHEN TO DRAW THE LINE
The man should know when to draw the line if anyone overstep boundaries, knowing that it would cause further friction. When both the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law know their place, it would be easy for them to live amicably.
Mother-in-law/daughter-in-law drama has ruined a lot of marriages, but with these tips you can create a healthy relationship between them and make your family peaceful.
ViV