Sometimes, you go into relationships, and after months of being with that partner, you start to endure the relationship rather than enjoy the relationship — and this could possibly go on for months and even years before it would dawn on you that you haven’t really been enjoying the relationship.
It’s possible to go long spells in a relationship without realising that you have been unhappy all along.
Below are some of the things you say when you are unhappy in your relationship and don’t even know.
1. HE / SHE WOULD CHANGE
This statement only shows that you are unhappy with what’s happening in your relationship and you seriously want things to change. This shows optimism, but behind that optimism lies huge amounts of unhappiness.
2. WE ARE STRESSED AND HAVEN’T REALLY HAD TIME FOR EACH OTHER
This statement shows that you totally understand that something just isn’t right in your relationship and you are blaming it on something else just in a bid to feel that everything is okay.
3. IT’S NOT THAT I DON’T TRUST HIM / HER, BUT…
Once there is a but in any statement then it only shows that there isn’t total belief — in other words, there is disbelief. When you say but after trust then it’s obvious that you don’t really trust your partner.
4. WE’D BE BACK TO HOW WE ONCE WERE
This is another statement that shows optimism and belief in your relationship, but behind that optimism, you also know deep down that you are unhappy.
This statement shows that you are presently unhappy in the relationship, though you were once happy in it.
5. I DON’T EXPECT TO ALWAYS BE HAPPY IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Of course, you can’t always be happy in a relationship; there are times when unhappiness could step into the picture. But when you remind yourself of this fact then it’s only you telling yourself that you are currently unhappy, but things would sort out soon enough.
6. IT’S BETTER TO BE PRACTICAL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP THAN TO BE HAPPY
I think everyone would rather choose to be in love and to be happy than to be practical. After all, being in love sometimes goes against being practical. When you start giving reasons why it’s okay to be unhappy then it’s a sign that you are unhappy in the relationship.
Sometimes, the things you say about your relationship goes a long way to reveal how you actually feel deep down about your relationship.
ViV