There are countless things one should never tolerate in a relationship, though many of these things are a lot easier said than done. Being humans, we’re complex species, and while we may know that we shouldn’t be with someone for some reason, sometimes, we stick around instead of just letting go and moving on. However, I believe we are all worthy beings, and no matter what, no one deserves to be treated with disrespect; so wherever you are, whatever you do, do not forget these list of things you shouldn’t tolerate in a relationship…
Of all the things not to tolerate in a relationship, cheating is an obvious one. Cheating should not be tolerated in a relationship for several reasons. One, if your partner is cheating, you don’t know what disease he (she) may be picking up from others, and this could jeopardize your own health. Also, cheating breaks trust, which is a major foundation of a healthy relationship. If you happen to feel, given your particular circumstances, that working through an incident is an option you want to explore, fine, but do not, by any means, tolerate perpetual cheating. A cheater is not worth your own well-being.
2. LYING/ SECRETS
In addition to cheating, perpetual lying should not be tolerated as trust is a key foundation in any relationship. A white lie here and there is not necessarily something to get worked up over, but if you catch your partner lying to you on a regular basis, it may be time to rethink your relationship with that person.
3. UNCONTROLLED TEMPERS
Anger is a natural human emotion. Everyone feels angry at times, but anger and an out-of-control temper are two drastically different concepts. If you find that your partner punches holes in walls (not literally of course. Lol); takes his (her) anger out on you in an inappropriate manner, makes threats, breaks things, etc. This is not a healthy expression of anger and can lead to devastating consequences in your relationship. Do not tolerate this behaviour. Either insist that he (she) seek treatment options for his temper or drop him (her). Violence from women to men is rare, but that doesn’t mean it never happens.
4. PHYSICAL OR SEXUAL ABUSE
Abuse of any form should not be tolerated in a relationship. Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize signs of domestic abuse for a number of reasons. You must first realize that no matter what, you never deserve to be abused. If your partner hits you, beats you, rapes you (and yes, this includes marital rape), or inflicts any sort of physical violence on you, try your best to get out of the situation. I know this is often easier said than done, but realize that not all men (and women) are like this, and that you are worthy of someone who will treat your body with some respect!
5. MENTAL OR EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Mental and emotional abuse are often even harder to detect than physical or sexual abuse. If your partner uses manipulation, threats, belittlement, or any other means of making you feel unsafe, insecure, or bad about yourself, this is most likely a form of abuse as well. Do not tolerate a partner who makes you feel unworthy. And remember, no matter what he (or she) says to knock you down, the shame is on him (or her), not on you.
6. HARM TO YOUR CHILDREN
If you find that your partner has in any way jeopardized the well-being of your children, get rid of him (or her) immediately. Whether they are his (or her) children or not, he (or she) must respect them as well as you. If your children ever say that they have been inappropriately touched, harmed physically, etc. by your partner, he (or she) must go. Never tolerate a man (or woman) who harms your children.
So there guys, 6 of the many things you should never have to put up with in your relationships. Please, feel free to add your own.