I do not think there is any feeling worse than being rejected and undervalued — it is devastating, and can wreck a person’s life if not handled with care.
Rejection can come in different ways; at work, school, from friends and a crush. Sometimes, it even comes from the people we least expect, but the reality of it all is that it is not the end of the world. If you are at a point in your life where you feel unwanted and undervalued, then this post is specially made for you. You’ll feel better about yourself if you follow the following steps…
1. IGNORE IT, AND DON’T TAKE IT TO HEART
The first step to overcoming rejection is refusing to accept it. What you do not accept cannot affect you in any way, but the moment you allow it to sink in, it begins to echo in your head and gradually takes a toll on your self-esteem. The fact you applied for a job and you didn’t get invited for an interview or you got called, but was turned down at the venue shouldn’t affect your worth as a person in any way. Maybe they do not see how valuable you are, but that doesn’t mean the next person won’t. Do not allow yourself to be defined by another person’s opinion of you.
2. DO NOT SUCK UP TO THEM (DON’T TRY TO IMPRESS THEM)
One of the biggest mistakes you can make as a person is to continue to suck up to a person who has made it very obvious that they do not want you in their life. In so doing, you help debase and cheapen yourself, and give them reason to possibly mock and insult you, and that would only go on to worsen the situation. So the right response to rejection is to let them be.
3. MAINTAIN A CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM
They say the best punishment for hate is love. They said you’re not good enough for them? Well, it hurts, I know, but don’t let it eat so deep into you to stop saying hello when you cross paths, no, instead, continue to show them love, as that would make them feel ashamed and guilty for the things they have done. Being malicious towards them would pass the impression that you’re hurt, and they’ll enjoy that knowledge. Please do not give them the pleasure.
4. GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT!
The normal reaction to rejection is to sit or lie down in bed, feeling all moody and devastated, but you don’t need ‘normal’ because it is bad for you at that point of your life. What you need to do is get up, go out, and spoil yourself a little. Whatever it is that gets you elated, do it — dance your ass off at a party, go swimming if it helps, or go jet skiing. Do things that would put you in a happy frame of mind and help you forget what you just went through.
5. HANG AROUND MORE PEOPLE
At a time like this, you need as many supportive people as you can get around you. This is the time you need your friends and family the most, so associate with them and let out your grudges. Talking always goes a long way in helping one lift a burden off their life.
Finally, I want you to know that rejection is not the end of the world. It is just one or a group of person’s opinion about you, so why should it bother you? We have different minds and eyes, so we see things differently. If one person fails to see you for how wonderful you are, it is their loss, not yours. It doesn’t mean that it’s everyone’s opinion of you, no, another person will come along and appreciate you like a diamond that you are. Like a famous quote says, ‘everything has beauty, but not everyone can see’. So dust yourself up and keep going.
Drama