A not-so-good relationship is the kind of relationship you get to endure, with the hope that things would get better, but it hardly ever does. Almost every relationship has its moments of ups and downs, but a not-so-good relationship has a lot of downs compared to ups; the sad moments in such a relationship far overwhelm the happy ones.
Many people tend to settle for these not-so-good relationships for some sentimental reasons, but are such relationships really worth the catch? I have reasons why they aren’t.
1. YOU TRADE YOUR HAPPINESS JUST FOR THE SAKE OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP
Like I mentioned earlier, a not-so-good relationship is one in which you have more downs than ups, meaning your relationship would have more sad times than happy times.
However, societal pressure of being in a relationship and getting married have forced people into thinking that they must settle for anything that comes their way; this is probably the reason why some women settle for relationships where they are tramped upon and some men also settle for some relationships just because they feel they can’t get anyone better.
Settling for relationships like these simply imply trading your happiness just for the sake of being in a relationship.
2. YOU FEEL YOU DON’T DESERVE ANY BETTER
What you settle for shows a mentality of what you think about yourself. When you settle for a not-so-good relationship, it clearly shows that you feel you don’t deserve better. And when you feel you don’t deserve better, you probably wouldn’t get better.
3. YOU LOSE SIGHT OF WANT YOU WANT
We all have what we want in a relationship and who we feel is our ideal partner. Though, we could sometimes fall for someone entirely different and have an even better relationship with them. Well, that’s different from settling for a not-so-good relationship; in a not-so-good relationship, you lose sight of what you want in your partner and what you feel you deserve.
A study found that people like these who settle for relationships, who were afraid of being single — those who agreed with statements like, “I feel it is close to being too late for me to find the love of my life,” and, “As I get older, it will be harder and harder to find someone” — were more likely to prioritise being in a relationship over the quality of that relationship, and they ended up having dissatisfying relationships.
4. YOU LIMIT YOUR POSSIBILITY OF FINDING TRUE LOVE
When you settle for a not-so-good relationship, you cut short the possibility of finding true love and of being with a partner who would understand you, treat you right and do what’s necessary to make you happy.
I strongly believe that everyone has that one person to have a great relationship with; that one person to build a relationship of love and understanding with. When you settle for less, you cut short the possibility of finding that true partner.
5. HOW LONG CAN YOU GO WITH THAT?
When I see people enduring not-so-good relationships, I ask myself — how long can they go with this? How far can you go with your mixed feelings? How far can you go when you live a life of constant complaining?
Setting for not-so-good relationships isn’t the ideal thing; when you believe you deserve better, only then can you get better.
Shawn