I’ve seen people beg desperately for their partner not to leave them or for a partner to have a relationship with them; but there’s hardly a good reason for this to happen.
If someone doesn’t want to be in your life, begging that person or trying to force that person is one of the worst mistakes you can make.
A relationship should be mutual; the love should be mutual and the feelings should be reciprocated. When a partner doesn’t care about you anymore that you have to resort to begging (even when you have done nothing wrong), then you are on the wrong path.
Begging someone to be in your life is never the ideal thing to do, and these reasons below show why:
1. IT SHOWS THE LOVE IS NO MORE THERE
Begging someone to be in your life is like begging someone to love you; it just can’t work. When you have to beg someone to be in your life, then it shows that the love doesn’t exist.
2. YOU LOSE YOUR SELF-WORTH
Your self-worth is very important as a human, but begging someone who doesn’t want to be in your life is like throwing your self-worth to the wind. You would definitely lose your self-worth, your self-esteem and your confidence when you beg someone to be in your life.
3. YOU BECOME DESPERATE
Desperation isn’t a sign of strength but a weakness. Desperation would open up your weaknesses; when you play the desperate partner, you make yourself seem like a fool — truth be told. Begging someone to be in your life is just a plain act of desperation.
4. YOU MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE LORDS
Of course, when you become so desperate that you have to beg someone to be in your life, you make them feel like lords over you and you become a slave to them. How can the relationship work well when it’s between a lord and a slave?
5. IT CAN NEVER BE THE SAME
A relationship with someone you had to beg not to leave you can never be the same. The love can never be as it ought to be, the feelings can never be the same and the way they treat you would definitely not be the same — they would all get worse. You make it seem like your partner is doing you a favour for having that relationship with you.
6. YOU OPEN UP THE CHANCE TO BE USED
When you become desperate in any situation, you open up the chance to be used. A lot of fraud victims lose their money probably because of greed and desperation. Begging someone to be in your life is like opening a door for someone to use you as they wish.
7. YOU LOSE YOUR APPEAL
When you have to beg someone to be in your life, you give them that edge over you. Meaning, you lose your importance in their eyes, you lose value and all they see are your flaws and desperation.
You can never be seen as appealing, beautiful and gorgeous when you beg someone to be in your life.
8. YOU MIGHT BEGIN TO IRRITATE THEM
In this situation, little things you do would irritate them, and this would make you try to be extremely perfect just not to make any mistake — but does this ever work out? No! No matter what you try to do or how you try to act, you would always irritate that person, because they no longer value you.
9. YOU SUFFER YOURSELF
You put yourself through a lot of stress and emotional distress when you beg someone to be in your life. And even when the person agrees to be in your life, you suffer the brunt of the relationship.
10. YOU BECOME EXTREMELY VULNERABLE
When you are desperate to have someone who isn’t really willing to be in your life, you become vulnerable and expose yourself to certain treatments, feelings, weaknesses and emotions. You are at the person’s feet and you become vulnerable to anything that might come your way.
11. IT BECOMES ONE-SIDED
A relationship where only one partner is willing is a one-sided relationship. In this kind of relationship, you do everything possible and even impossible to keep the relationship going; you do everything to make sure the relationship is smooth-sailing, while your partner cares so little.
You need to be strong for yourself; you need to recognise who you are. Begging someone to be in your life is throwing your value to the dust.
Shawn