Marriage always is a different ball game from dating. When you’re dating for the fun of it, some things can be tolerated, but if you’re dating someone with the thought of marrying them someday, then you must be very careful in the choice of partner you make because whatever decisions you take can have a long-lasting effect on your life. You must ensure you avoid certain kinds of people so your marriage turns out just as well as you want it to. To help you make your choice with much more ease, I have put this piece together. I hope you find it helpful.
1. MR/MISS ‘I’M MORE INTERESTED IN YOUR BODY THAN IN YOUR PERSONALITY’
There’s nothing wrong with your lover or partner loving and complimenting your body and sexual prowess, absolutely nothing wrong with that, but if that’s all they ever tell you, then, you should beware of them because it implies that they only see you as a sexual object, and nothing more. A person who truly cares about you doesn’t just compliment your outer beauty alone, they also compliment your personality because they’re in love with it just as much. Love isn’t partial, it comes complete and whole.
2. MR/MISS VAIN AND MATERIALISTIC
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to acquire wealth and property, but there should be a clear line between moderation and extremism. When someone seeks wealth at all costs, he/she can go to any length to achieve that objective, and that includes getting into all sorts of trouble and illegal activities. People like that can be a very bad influence on you and your reputation. Also, they usually do not care about anyone or anything as long as they get what they want, they’ll even put you at risk if that’s what it takes to get what they want. You certainly don’t want someone like this in your life for the longer term, trust me!
3. MR/MISS UNCONTROLLABLE ANGER
Everyone gets angry every once in a while, that is quite natural. However if your partner is in the habit of destroying property in their anger moments, it is no longer anger, but rage, and I suggest you ditch him/her because sooner or later, they might take it all out on you. No sane human being destroys property bought with hard-earned money just because they’re angry. A man or woman who has anger issues is irresponsible and is a potential danger to you and your kids.
4. MR/MISS ‘KNOW IT ALL’
Relationships aren’t just for sex and physical satisfaction alone, they’re meant to help people learn from each other and gain mental improvement. If your partner never listens or take corrections from you, and is always trying to impose his own ideas on you, run as far away from him/her as possible because someone like that hasn’t an iota of respect for you and what you represent. Marriage with someone of that nature will bring nothing but misery to you.
5. MR/MISS ‘I HAVE NO PLANS FOR THE FUTURE’
Of course they won’t literally tell you they have no plans for the future. I doubt anyone is that daft. Lol. However, with a person’s actions and general attitude toward life, you’ll be able to easily tell how seriously they take their future. For instance, if your partner (man or woman) has no job, and isn’t seeking to engage himself or herself in something productive, and never discusses his future plans or projections with you, such a person isn’t serious about life, and you have no business being with someone like that in the first place…run, and run for your life.
P.S: Never get into marriage with the sort of people listed above in hope that you can ‘change them’. People have tried it in the past, and it always never ends well. Some people are just incorrigible. If he/she doesn’t love you enough to turn a new leaf before marriage, they might not change after.
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Fantastic. Fantastic and fantastic piece of advice there. Thank you.
I realy know that some women are just dont like to be like women they want to go for temptation an one thing i notice if u have a women Who keeps her fone even interesse da sawer make sure u a many in that women and
man thank also hw did u found a women and wr did u found her some Ladys u didn’t evn proposed her u didn’t swt so never Mary such a person she Will disapoint u much.
I’ve experience it before and I’m glad that we didn’t end up together, but it help me to become a better person. God totally had a better plans for us if we put our trust on Him, and I did. Thank you for the advise…
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what do u mean by plans? what if she plans to have kids with you and be the best mum ever. is that a plan or the plans you talking about is the job or something along those lines? help!
i paid lobola for her last year, now i have financial problems & she has gone to her mother with my 17months son. I find ths weird and now im scared to continue my relationship with her