Marriage is an institution that needs attention and nourishment from both partners. Your marriage won’t be a success if you are not ready to make it work. There are certain habits most people have that can destroy their marriage and I hope after reading this article, those dangerous habits would cease to appear in your marriage.
Below are 5 habits that can destroy your marriage
1. YOU TAKE YOUR SPOUSE FOR GRANTED
Taking your spouse for granted is a habit that would destroy your marriage quickly. As a husband, when was the last time you said thank you to your wife after a meal? Some men just assume it’s their wife’s role to cook their meals so they don’t even bother telling her thank you after a meal. This habit is so wrong and can ruin your marriage. As a wife, when was the last time you said thank you to your husband for giving you a gift or cash? Do you just believe it’s your husband’s duty so you don’t bother saying thank you to him? It’s important not to assume your spouse is supposed to do certain things in a marriage as this makes us take our spouse for granted. Always appreciate your spouse and say thank you whether it’s your chores or theirs your partner did.
2. HAVING A HEATED ARGUMENT IN FRONT OF THE KIDS
This is a habit we need to do away with in our marriages. Arguing in front of the kids is so wrong and this is something that shouldn’t be found in your marriage. You should understand that seeing their parents argue and fight affects children mentally and I really don’t think you want your children to go through this. Never have an argument in front of the children. Never.
3. YOU DISRESPECT YOUR SPOUSE
Some men tend to hit their wife at the slightest provocation and this is really terrible. I have heard stories of men that flog their wife with a belt. The wives are also not left out as some women derive joy in calling their husbands names and cursing them too. These habits shouldn’t be found in any marriage. No matter how frustrated you are, learn to talk instead of disrespecting your spouse. Disrespecting your spouse would never make things work in your marriage but it instead destroys your marriage.
4. YOU INTERRUPT YOUR SPOUSE DURING A CONVERSATION
It’s wrong to interrupt anyone during a conversation so I see no reason why you should even interrupt your spouse during a conversation. It’s really bad and sends all the wrong signals to your spouse. And please don’t tell me you are the man and so you have the right to interrupt your wife when she is talking. No one, whether the husband or the wife should interrupt his/her spouse during a conversation as this is rude. Learn to give your spouse the time to talk. If you must cut in while your spouse is talking, politely ask for his/her permission or else let them finish.
5. TALK BAD ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE IN PUBLIC
There are no excuses for talking negatively about your spouse to your family or friends, it’s so wrong and can destroy your marriage. When you say negative things about your spouse in public, you give people the room to disrespect your spouse. It’s better you keep quiet and make no comment about your spouse if you have nothing positive to say about your spouse because talking bad about your spouse shows you have no regard for your marriage.
Ensure these habits are not found in your marriage.
Phil