I understand this is a delicate subject but I still think it should be discussed. In so many relationships today, the moment a partner is without their phone is seen as the perfect moment to take an easy peek without their partner ever knowing. But is this really right?
I believe snooping is wrong and below are my reasons
1. SNOOPING LEAVES YOU IN A LOSE/LOSE SITUATION
One of the downsides of snooping is that it leaves you in a lose/lose situation. When you snoop and find nothing, you have to face that uncomfortable feeling of knowing you violated the trust you have for your partner. So what if you find something, you might want to ask. If you do find something, you are faced with deciding whether to confront your partner (while admitting you snooped) or sit in silence while the knowledge eats you up.
2. IT SHOWS LACK OF TRUST
If you don’t trust your partner, why bother be in the relationship in the first place? Snooping through your partner’s phone shows a lack of trust. Do you really expect your partner to trust you when you can’t trust your partner? A relationship without trust is doomed to fail. It’s important you treat others the way you want to be treated.
3. SNOOPING IS ADDICTIVE
Snooping is very addictive. When you start snooping, it’s difficult to stop. In fact you would find yourself sooner or later seeing it as a way of life. The problem with snooping is that you just can’t stop even if you find nothing. It becomes so addictive that you keep snooping at every opportunity and this kills trust in a relationship.
4. SNOOPING MIGHT PUT CONFIDENTIAL INFORMATION AT RISK
Snooping through your partner’s phone can cause problems for them professionally. If your partner is in a profession where certain documents are supposed to be confidential, you risk putting your partner’s job or professional credibility at risk just because you were trying to satisfy your curiosity.
So what then should you do? I believe instead of snooping, there are better ways to tackle the issue head on. If you feel your partner might be hiding something because your partner keeps taking phone calls away from you, I believe you should sit down with your partner and talk about it. If you have a strong feeling about something, approaching your partner calmly and having an open communication with your partner is really important. If you feel certain actions would make you feel safe in the relationship, talk about it with your partner. I sincerely believe it’s better you ask your partner for permission to go through his phone than snoop. If you feel going through your partner’s phone would make you feel safe, ask for it instead of snooping.
I know many would disagree with me on this subject but this is my humble opinion on this subject.
Phil