No successful marriage is a product of luck, if it’s successful, then, someone must have done their homework. The major reason most people end up in regretful unions is because they fail to do all the proper things before taking that bold step. A great marriage starts off as a great courtship, the moment you get it wrong at that point, the worse will surely follow. I took time to research why a lot of people end up with the wrong partner in marriage, and here are some of the reasons I came up with…
1. MISPLACED PRIORITIES
We all want to get married to a great looking or (and) maybe wealthy person, but should that be at the expense of the other more important qualities? Most people get into courtship based on the physical attributes of a person instead of those things that the eyes cannot see, because admit it or not, in the end, they are the things that actually matter. Of what use are good looks and wealth if they don’t come with smartness, respect, understanding, and all those things required to have the ideal home? This is where it starts to go wrong for most people. They ignore the deeper things for the superficial and begin to suffer the consequences after marriage.
2. LACK OF ATTENTION TO DETAILS
Courtship is a time when you get to study your potential spouse, and see if there are things about them that you like or do not like. When you give attention to every little detail about them, you can spot their mistakes, errors and inadequacies, and be able to put them right, but often times, intending couples tend to ignore these things, in the hope that they’ll change in future…a decision that many have continued to regret.
3. INCOMPATIBILITY
‘Opposites attract’, but does that mean you should go ahead and marry someone you obviously are completely different from? I don’t think so. Even if they’re different, it shouldn’t be too much. Marriage is about compatibility, and being with someone you can tolerate, someone who gets you as much as you get them. This is why it is wrong to ever rush into a marriage, because it usually limits or entirely eliminates the window you need to access your partner, and see if they fit the profile of THE ONE.
4. STICKING WITH ANOTHER PERSON’S CHOICE
Some people are blinded by family allegiances and love that they do not mind allowing their siblings and parents chose a man or woman for them to marry. That is just plain stupidity. The choice of who you marry isn’t one that should be made for anyone by another person, because marriage is serious business. Nobody knows what you want better than yourself, so nobody is better positioned to make a choice for yourself better than you. If you let someone chose for you, and they make the wrong one, you could live to regret that for the rest of your life. A lot of people did, and they still regret it.
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