There are various short-tempered people on earth, with varying degrees of uncontrollable anger emanating from within. While some are as a result of the kind of environment they were exposed to, some could be said to be in their genes.
Dating a short-tempered partner is never an easy ordeal, and these four important things should be considered before going into a relationship with that person.
1. THE DEGREE OF HIS/HER SHORT-TEMPER
There are varying degrees of anger in different people, and it’s important to understand that of your partner before entering a relationship with them.
First, if he / she is the kind that their anger would lead to extreme violence then you should be wary of such a relationship, or you would suffer tremendously. A lot of people have died or have been beaten to a pulp or stabbed just because of being with a short-tempered partner. Know the degree of anger that person possesses and quit the relationship if it’s too dangerous.
2. YOU NEED REAL STRENGTH
By real strength, I don’t mean physical strength. Being with a short-tempered partner requires a lot of tolerance and commitment, as well as extreme understanding — and this takes real strength. You would never pull through if you don’t have this kind of strength.
3. HOW MUCH ARE THEY WILLING TO CHANGE?
The second point brings me to this; it would definitely be unfair that the weight of the whole relationship be put on you. Your partner should be willing to change for the sake of the relationship. If that partner isn’t willing to change then your efforts to make the relationship work would actually be futile.
4. SEEK HELP
Sometimes you could both be madly in love with each other to the extent that you would condone anything to be with that partner that just can’t control his / her anger.
They say ‘love conquers all’, but the best way to actually go through this together is to seek help. Let your partner take anger management classes and you would be surprised at how much your partner could actually be different — and this would totally help your relationship.
Seeking help is highly important because you can’t actually solve this on your own.
After these four considerations, it would be easier to determine whether to go into that relationship or not.
ShawnÂ