Having certain expectations can kill your relationship or even marriage before it starts. Movies, music and novels sometimes paint an unrealistic idea of love and relationships, making it seem so easy and perfect. Many people carry such beliefs and expectations into their relationship, and they can easily kill your relationship.
4 dangerous expectations to be wary of:
1. EXPECTING YOUR PARTNER TO ALWAYS KNOW
Many people (women especially), are in the habit of expecting their partner to always know what to do, what they want and how they want it. Wanting your partner to read your mind could be quite a hard task, and some even expect their partner to know the reason for their anger even when they refuse to say it. Having such expectation is dangerous for every relationship and would cause unnecessary pressure in the relationship and also lead to friction.
2. EXPECTING YOUR PARTNER TO RARELY OR NEVER MAKE A MISTAKE
Having this expectation is also another dangerous one. We are humans and we must certainly make mistakes, but learning from them is how we become wiser and more knowledgeable. Expecting your partner not to make a mistake is already a big mistake on your part.
3. EXPECTING UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
Expecting the attention of your partner isn’t a bad thing, but when it becomes dangerous is when you expect undivided attention from that person. Your partner definitely has other things as work, family, career and personal issues to contend with; even though you deserve a large chunk of your partner’s time, undivided attention is one that shouldn’t be expected.
4. TO BE ALWAYS HAPPY
A successful relationship isn’t one devoid of unhappiness; it’s one in which couples don’t let certain issues that come with the relationship stand in the way of the success and growth of the relationship. A relationship can hardly be an ‘always happy zone’; having such expectations pose a risk that could lead to the relationship failing.
It’s good to have certain expectations when entering a relationship, but when it’s overly unrealistic then your relationship could be harmed.
Shawn