I often find it annoying when I hear someone say they’re heartbroken because they got dumped by their partner. In fact, I always put the blame on whomever claims they were dumped— because for me, somehow, they contributed to their own predicament.
You see, no one can dump you / break your heart without your knowledge or consent. Before the final straw, there always are signs that suggest that your relationship is headed for the rocks, but unfortunately, most of us tend to not see them — maybe consciously or unconsciously. Some actually see these signs, but pretend they’re not there, while they hope things get better…others do not see them, and It’s quite a shame. This is why it is absolutely important that we be very careful and conscious of every happening in and around our relationship because that is the only way we can notice whatever changes that occur, and take urgent steps to save ourselves possible heartbreak.
Like I have said a number of times (even in my previous posts), nobody just dumps their partner; before they do, there are warning signs that suggest they’re no longer interested in the relationship. These signs come in their general attitude towards you; it is your responsibility to spot them early enough. After my research on the subject, I came up with a number of signs to watch out for. However, for easier understanding, I have decided to discuss them under 3. Now, let’s take a good look at them.
1. THEY DON’T SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOU LIKE THEY USED TO
I like to think of this as the easiest to spot of all the signs they could possibly exhibit— I mean, let’s face it, someone who once used to be there for you all the time without complaining, suddenly finds it an upheaval task to even spend one hour of their time with you without bringing up one excuse or another — even when it’s obvious they’re free. If it isn’t work, it’s some other thing keeping them occupied…or they suddenly want to spend their time alone, with friends or watching sports— the handwriting on the wall is crystal clear… they’re done with you!
2. COMMUNICATION BECOMES INSUFFICIENT
Communication is the bedrock of all relationships. It is the water that keeps it alive — the moment there’s a break in communication between two people in a relationship, that relationship is as good as dead. When you notice that your partner who once called and texted very often now does them less frequently, it could be a sign that they’re beginning to find you less fascinating. In a situation like this, the advisable thing to do is make out time and talk to him/her about it. If the new development is as a result of nothing more than a busy schedule, they’ll apologize, and of course, try to be better. However, if there’s no improvement on the situation, you should be very concerned…and perhaps, consider your options.
3. THEY SUDDENLY BECOME TEMPERAMENTAL
This is really very common in fading relationships; especially among younger couples. The moment one party is fed up with the affair, and wants out they deliberately resort to picking offense at every little mistake the other person does, just so they can get an excuse to quit the relationship. You find them complaining over every little thing their partner does, even over things they once ignored, and always trying to make their partner seem inadequate. If you find your partner putting up a show of temperament like described, it may be time for you to reconsider your stand on the relationship.
Finally, you must always bear in mind that not every relationship is going to be perfect— some are meant to fail, so you can find your rightful partner, and forge your dream relationship. So, never stick to a relationship, even when there are obvious signs that it isn’t meant to be. Once you notice that loss of chemistry, and it becomes irreparable … move on, and be happy again.
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