When we say “I do” to the that special someone in our life, we hope the marriage lasts. No one desires a divorce when they get married.
There are secrets to a lasting marriage and those who want to have a lasting marriage should make sure they know these secrets
1. Be best friends with your spouse. You really have to like each other to last.
2. You have to be willing to compromise. Don’t be rigid.
3. Husbands should always remember that wives want to be loved and cherished while wives should remember that husbands wants to feel respected.
4. Never fight about money with your spouse. Financial problems lead to divorce so handle money problems with care.
5. Always sit next to each other on the couch. Doing this makes it impossible not to physically touch each other.
6. Communication is more about listening than talking. You should also remember not to discuss sensitive subjects with your spouse when hungry or tired.
7. Issues and problems will definitely arise in your marriage but how you handle them is really important. If you want a lasting marriage, don’t look at problems to place blames; seek to find solutions instead.
8. Always treat your spouse as a honoured guest in your home. Ensure you are always on your best behaviour.
9. Always find things to laugh about because when you laugh together, you’ll form a special bond with your partner and overcome anything together.
10. Avoid seeing divorce as an option and considering it as an answer to a problem.
11. As a couple, it’s still important to have your personal goals. Just because you are married doesn’t mean your dreams and aspirations end. You also have to be passionate, supportive and accepting of what your spouse is doing in their personal life.
12. While friends and family are an important part of our lives, for you to have a lasting marriage, it’s important you do away with friends, family and even situations that have a negative effect on your life and marriage.
13. Keep your sex life interesting and do not be afraid to dress and act sensual in the bedroom.
14. Always go out on a date with your spouse. Going out as a couple without the children is an important ingredient every marriage needs.
15. Always put your marriage first. During tough times, remember why you got together in the first place.
16. Share a common dream with your spouse. Doing this helps you navigate any difficulty you might meet as a couple.
17. Mind your manners. Learn to always use “please” when making a request from your spouse. Never be too proud to say “sorry”. Learn to be kind and gentle with your partner.
18. Appreciate the differences you both have and not get irritated by them.
Phil