Humans are quick to place judgement on someone, and when you have judgment about someone, it’s usually difficult to change your opinion or judgement about that person.
Speaking of trust, you are either trustworthy or untrustworthy; it’s people’s judgement about your character which you’ve exhibited, either knowingly or unknowingly that will make them trust you or not.
Why do you think you trust someone and cannot trust another person?
These characters below make you untrustworthy:
1. YOU ARE SELF-CENTRED
I’ve never seen a self-centred person who’s trustworthy. When you are self-centred, you think more about yourself and less of others and would likely jeopardise other people’s interests for yours alone. This will make people not to trust you. Selfish people are never trustworthy.
2. YOU DON’T KEEP YOUR PROMISES
Human beings tend to believe what they see. When you say something and don’t do it, you lose people’s trust.
3. YOU LIE
Lying will definitely kill the trust people have for you, and the more lies you tell the more they lose trust in you. No one ever trusts a liar.
4. YOU TALK TOO MUCH
People who are talkative and gossips are in this group; they can never be trusted. They know how to do one thing — not to keep a secret. Also, they tend to talk about things they shouldn’t — and this makes people take them less serious.
5. YOU ARE INCONSISTENT
Inconsistency is another thing that could cause distrust. People need you to be consistent before they can warm up to you; when you mix up good and bad, lies and truth, diligence and laziness — you make it risky to be trusted.
6. YOU TALK BAD ABOUT PEOPLE
No one loves to be talked bad about. When you talk bad about other people, you pass an information that you can as well talk bad about the person you’re talking to. People who talk bad about other people are never trustworthy people.
7. YOU AREN’T ACCOUNTABLE
You have to be accountable for your decisions, whether right or wrong. When you aren’t accountable, there wouldn’t be trust.
8. YOU HAVE ANGER ISSUES
Anger issues could also kill trust. If you get angry too easily and lack self-control, you become a hazard to trust.
9. YOU NEVER ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES
Trust isn’t about being perfect; making mistakes, accepting them and learning from it also breeds trust. But when you never accept your mistake and apologise for it, people won’t trust you.
10. YOU ALWAYS CLAIM TO BE RIGHT
The people who claim to know everything and be right about everything — that is, the self-acclaimed perfect people tend to kill the trust people have for them.
11. YOU LACK FOCUS
When people see you as lazy, unserious, irresponsible, uncommitted and one who lacks focus, they’d never trust you.
12. YOU ARE ILL-MANNERED
Ill-mannered people are never trusted too. Their bad manners give people a negative perception about them, and that’s what kills the trust.
Do people find it hard to trust you? It never goes beyond these reasons.
Jake