You shouldn’t just jump into a new relationship for the sake of it, especially if you are coming out of a very bad relationship.
Many people come out of their relationships only to enter a new one with the wrong state of mind. You have to be mentally and emotionally ready before you enter a new relationship.
These signs show that you aren’t ready for that new relationship:
1. YOU STILL LOVE YOUR EX
You can’t love your ex and thoroughly love your new partner. When you still love your ex and you enter a new relationship, you won’t love your new partner enough as you ought to and you wouldn’t treat your new partner right.
2. YOU HAVE NOT HEALED
If you haven’t healed from the wounds of your previous relationship, you would definitely bring it into the new relationship, making it almost impossible for your new relationship to succeed.
To enter a new relationship, you ought to have healed to a reasonable extent, from your past wounds.
3. YOU STILL BELIEVE ALL MEN/WOMEN ARE THE SAME
There is no way you can have a meaningful relationship if you feel everyone is the same or everyone is bad.
4. YOU DON’T LOVE YOUR NEW PARTNER
What’s the essence of being in a relationship when you don’t love that new partner? If you wouldn’t love your new partner wholeheartedly then you shouldn’t have a relationship with them.
5. YOU WOULDN’T TRUST YOUR NEW PARTNER
Trust is vital for the success of the relationship; when trust is missing and is replaced with distrust then the relationship would hardly be successful. Distrust would propel you to make all the wrong decisions.
6. YOU HAVEN’T MOVED ON
You ought to move on from the pains or past glory or whatever it is of your previous relationship. If you can’t move on, then you aren’t ready to have a new relationship.
7. YOU HAVEN’T LEARNT FROM YOUR PAST MISTAKES
If you keep going for the same set of people who would hurt you time after time, then you haven’t learnt from your past relationship mistakes. When you keep having the same outcomes in your relationships then it means something is definitely wrong. It’s either you are choosing the wrong partners or you are probably the problem. You would need to go back to the drawing board and sort yourself out before entering a new relationship.
8. YOU ARE TOO INDEPENDENT
You can’t be too independent in a relationship; that’s not what a relationship stands for. Togetherness and commitment are needed for your relationship to succeed, and if you are too independent, you might just shy away from these two.
9. A DISTRACTION
If you are using the relationship as a distraction then you are being unfair to your new partner. If it’s a rebound relationship or you are using it to make an ex jealous or any other form of distraction, then it’s a sign you aren’t ready for a new relationship.
10. YOU ARE EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE
It’s so hectic and tiring to have a relationship with an emotionally unavailable partner, and I find it unfair that people enter relationships even in this state.
If you are emotionally unavailable, you won’t love your partner enough, you won’t meet their emotional needs, you would leave them lonely and you would hardly be there for them. It’s a terrible decision to enter a new relationship when you are emotionally unavailable.
If you show signs of any of these mentioned above then you shouldn’t be in a new relationship.
Sort yourself out before going into that new relationship.
Shawn