There is no magic to having a successful relationship; some attributes and traits one exhibit in a relationship can determine whether that relationship would work or not.
If any of these ten traits below are found in your relationship, it would never work.
1. YOU CHOOSE THE WRONG PARTNER
This is probably the major reason many relationships don’t work in the first place. When you settle for a partner that you aren’t compatible with and can’t build understanding with, your relationship with that person would never work.
Many people choose a relationship partner based on superficial things, and they always end up having a relationship filled with chaos.
2. YOU WANT TO BE IN CONTROL
Seeking control in a relationship can also ruin it. When one partner wants to control everything that happens in the relationship, or want to have control over their partner then that relationship is already on its path to failure.
3. ONE-SIDED
A relationship that’s one-sided can never be successful. It’s totally unjust to have one partner putting all the efforts in the relationship. When such an imbalance exist, it can never work in the long run.
4. LACK OF EMPATHY
Simply put, empathy is putting yourself in the shoes of your partner, understanding what they feel and identifying in their pains, feelings and emotions. How many relationships can actually boast of empathy? Many couples aren’t empathetic, and this can cause many feelings that would harm the relationship — constant arguments and quarreling are usually found in such a relationship.
5. LACK OF TRUST
The matter of trust can never be overemphasised. When partners don’t trust each other, then they can never build a long-lasting and successful relationship with each other. A lack of trust creates all manners of tensions and drama.
6. YOU CAN’T HANDLE EACH OTHER DURING THE HARD TIMES
Hard times provide a test for every relationship, and how partners handle themselves during such moments would determine whether the relationship would be successful or not.
7. WAITING FOR THE OTHER PARTNER
This is another scenario that pans out in many relationships — albeit, a childish one at that. Some relationship partners tend to wait for the other partner to make the first move — probably, they wait for the other to apologise, to say ‘I love you’, to show affection and care etc. When one partner doesn’t take the initiative, and they both keep waiting for each other then this could pose a problem for the relationship.
8. YOU DON’T APOLOGISE TO EACH OTHER
You ought to say sorry to each other; we all make mistakes but it’s not about making mistakes, but how we respond to our mistakes.
When partners don’t acknowledge their mistakes and apologise for it, such a relationship would never work — and surprisingly, many relationship partners are guilty of this trait.
9. YOU AREN’T GRATEFUL TO EACH OTHER
Appreciation is also important in every relationship; you ought to appreciate each other’s efforts and roles in the relationship. When appreciation is lacking, quarrels, bitterness and disagreements would be at the forefront of such a relationship.
10. BLAME GAME AND HARSH CRITICISMS
Another common reason many relationships don’t work is because of the blame game couples play. When couples don’t take responsibilities, but rather point accusing fingers at each other and criticise each other harshly, their relationship would never be a success.
If any of these ten things are found in your relationship, it would never be successful.
Learn to build positive traits in your relationship; make conscious efforts to build positive traits in your relationship — that’s how you build a successful relationship.
ShawnÂ