Understanding and trust are very important ingredients for a happy and successful relationship. Where there isn’t at least one of the two, there’s absolutely no happiness.
The only way to know something about someone is to ask them, but sometimes, we are too shy to ask because we don’t want to end up hurting their feelings. But that notwithstanding, asking is essential for knowing. So never be ashamed or feel guilty to ask. Just sit them down, and talk about things you want to know.
Here are some very important questions to ask your partner in a relationship.
“HOW CLOSE ARE YOU WITH YOUR FAMILY?”
Research has suggested that asking someone about their family and whether they’re close to them can build trust and emotional intimacy. Most families seem to have some kind of dysfunctionality, and opening up about it lets you know why your partner is the way they are.
“WHAT DO YOU FIND HARD TO TALK ABOUT WITH ME?”
Many couples find it hard to talk about certain matters with each other. It is easier to find out what these matters are and why they are reluctant to talk them out with you. Their answer might be a bit judgmental for you, but you have to be accepting if you want to build total trust between the two of you.
“WHAT ACCOMPLISHMENT(S) ARE YOU MOST PROUD OF?”
Revealing the one accomplishment that your partner is most proud of shows their ultimate goal in life. It is a way of asking what their main goal is — a question that they may not be completely honest about since it may lead to other information.
“WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP?”
Nobody likes being asked directly whether they love their partner and how much. The above question is a more casual approach of getting the answers you are looking for. You get to see how your partner feels about you and how they think your relationship is going without having to say any big words that they may not be ready to say just yet.
“WHAT IS YOUR WORST MEMORY?”
This question will bring intimacy the same way the question about your partner’s family will. People find it easy to talk about happy moments, but they refrain from thinking and talking about their sad moments. Opening up about them means opening a window to their heart and their past.
“WHAT WAS THE LAST THING YOU CRIED ABOUT?”
Crying is a very deep emotion that comes up because of very unpleasant situations or feelings. It is a continuance of the previous question. Being able to talk about something painful means that you trust the person you are opening up to with your pain.
“IF YOU COULD, WHAT IS THE ONE THING YOU WOULD CHANGE ABOUT YOURSELF?”
Depending on the answer you will get to this question, you will see whether your partner recognizes the negative parts of themselves and whether they want to change. If so, it means that they want you to know their disadvantages and help them change them.
“WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU HAD ONLY 6 WEEKS TO LIVE?”
This is a very deep hypothetical question that invites your partner to think about the things that matter the most to them. It will make them do some soul searching so that they’ll be able to share with you their ultimate goals and desires that were always there.
“WHAT MAKES A DAY PERFECT FOR YOU?”
Every person has different things that make them happy, and with this question you will know exactly what these sources are. It is important to know the wants and needs of your partner and for them to reveal them to you requires them to open a small part of their heart to you.
“WHAT ARE YOU MOST THANKFUL FOR RIGHT NOW?”
Being thankful for your life means that you appreciate the people and things around you and that you realise the importance of not taking what you have for granted.
Hearing what your partner is thankful for shows you what they value the most in life and what they would like to keep on having in their lives.